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母亲的五条人生箴言

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. – Tenneva Jordan

“妈妈是这样一个人，在五个人吃四份馅饼的情况下，她会立刻宣布自己从不喜欢吃馅饼。”-- Tenneva Jordan

If you scoured the entire Earth looking for someone who has shown more kindness to you than your own mother you would be gone a long time. Such a person does not exist. Your mother cared for you while you were in her stomach, gave birth to you, fed and raised you to become the person you are today. No body comes even close to her in terms of love and compassion. And over the years she has taught us many things, some helpful, some not so helpful. Here are a few life lessons that your mom was right about.

如果你走遍世界，期望找到一位比母亲对你更好的人，你恐怕需要寻找很久。天下间没有谁会比你母亲对你更好。你还在她肚子里时母亲就开始关心你，后来，她又历尽艰难生下你，将你抚养成人。没人对你的关爱怜悯能及你母亲。随着时间流逝，母亲教给我们很多东西，有些能帮助我们，有些则不然。这里有母亲的五条人生箴言。

1. It could be worse

 1. 可能更糟

Of all the things your mom said to you as a kid this is one of the most valuable. Hidden inside these four words is a wealth of wisdom that has been somewhat obscured due to the popular nature of the saying. In fact, when your mom said this to you it was often at a time when you felt pretty terrible. And so you ignored her. I’ll never forget when my little brother broke his arm my mom calmly announced that “it could be worse” and to basically get it together. She was right. It could have been worse.

 当你还是孩子时，在母亲对你说过的话中，这句话最有价值。这四个字背后隐藏着巨大的智慧，但因其太过通俗，人们并不能清晰的理解它。事实上，常常是你很难受的时候，母亲才和你说这样的话，因此，你会忽视她的良苦用心。我永远不会忘记，弟弟手臂折断时，母亲冷静的安慰他“还好没有更糟”，使弟弟振作。母亲是正确的，有可能会更糟糕。

The reason this saying is so important is because it teaches two things that are essential to your life, calmness and compassion. When you think about how much worse your bad situation could be you realize that there is no point getting all worked up. But you also start to think about those other people out there in that “worse” predicament and feel sorry for them. It is a very powerful tool.

这句话很重要，因为它告诉我们，沉着冷静和富有爱心这两点对我们的人生至关重要。当你觉得自己的处境非常糟糕时，你想到还有别的人处境更艰难，更让人同情，因此意识到，其实你没有必要抱怨所有的不幸。这很管用。

2. The proof will be in the pudding

 2.果实才能证明你们的努力

As if on a timer, my mom would say “the proof will be in the pudding” every year about three weeks before school report cards went out. It was around this time that she started to get nervous that my brother and I had been playing too much soccer and not doing enough homework. So she would subtly let us know that even though we said we were working hard, the real proof would be the grades on that card. And for some reason it scared the hell out of me!

好像定时器一样，每年成绩单寄出前三个星期的时候，母亲总会告诉我们“你们的努力将在果实中得到证明”。那个时候，因为担心我和弟弟足球玩得太多，功课做得不够，她就会借此巧妙的告诉我们，虽然我们说学习很努力，但真正能证明我们努力的还是成绩单上的分数。不知为什么，这总是会让我惊惧不已。

There are a lot of people in this world who are good at talking. They are good at spinning a few words together and getting out of a predicament. In a similar way, there are a lot of people who are good at making excuses. But the proof will be in the pudding. You can convince yourself and those around you that you are working hard towards your goals or a project but unless that hard work bears fruit then you might be kidding yourself. The proof really will be in the final product.

世界上有很多善于说空话的人。他们善于随便说几句话，走出困境。同样，也有很多人擅于为自己找借口。但是，只有果实才能证明努力。你可以使自己和朋友们相信你们正努力工作以使目标或项目实现，但除非辛勤付出结出了果实，你们可能都是在自欺欺人。只有最后的果实才能证明你们的辛勤付出。

3. I don’t care who started it, you stop it

 3. 我不管谁引起这件事，但你该制止它

Do you remember those times back at home when you and your brother or sister were pulling each others hair out over some stupid little argument? Do you remember how cheated you felt when mom trounced in the room and told you to stop it even though you didn’t start it? It was the worst feeling in the world. It felt like everyone was against you and that the world was completely unfair. Well, in actual fact, your mom was teaching you an extremely valuable life lesson about self control and self responsibility.

你记得小时候，你和兄弟或姐妹在家中为了一些愚蠢的争论而互相拉扯对方的头发嘛？你还记得,母亲在房中严厉的斥责你，告诉你尽管你没有挑起这件事，但你该制止这件事时你感到多委屈？这是世界上最糟糕的感觉。就像全世界都背弃了你，整个世界都不公平。但事实上，母亲那时是给你上了极其宝贵的一课，教你自我控制和承担责任。

What your mom was really saying in this situation is that she wants you to take responsibility for being the bigger person and diffuse the situation. When you put it like that you might start to see some more adult-life scenarios where it would be useful. Perhaps an argument that you are having with your father or even with your siblings again? Perhaps a colleague at work has started a fight or maybe one of your mates did something silly? Even though you might be in the right it is often extremely wise to put your pride aside and diffuse the situation.

母亲真正表达的是，在这种情况下，希望你能担负起家中长者的责任，化解矛盾。这么理解它，有助于你长大，体会成人的风景。也许你会再和父亲或兄弟姐妹为类似的事情争吵？也许一位同事挑起争端，引你打架，又或者你的丈夫或妻子做了些蠢事？尽管你可能是有理的一方，但这些情形下，真正聪明的做法是抛除你的自尊心，尽力平息矛盾。

Imagine the effect this wisdom would have on a global scale if it was put into practice by world leaders and politicians. I am not saying that everyone should just admit defeat all the time, but rather that it could be useful to put grudges aside and be the person or nation who takes steps to solving the problem instead of arguing about it.

想想如果全世界的领导人和政治家们践行这一箴言，世界将变得多么美好。我不是说每个人要一直承认自己的挫败，而是此时，只有抛却怨恨，不再争吵，提出措施以解决问题的人或国家才对事件的解决有所帮助。

4. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all

 4. 如果说不出善意的言辞，那请你不要说话

What a simple but powerful lesson. Imagine how many disputes around the world would be avoided if people just remembered their mothers advice. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. This saying has applications for marriages, politics, business and friendships. And it has a lot more to it than it seems.

这是多么简单却意义深刻的教诲啊。想想，如果人们记住母亲的教导，那世界上将有多少争端可以避免。如果说不出善意的言辞，那请你不要说话。这句话适用于婚姻，政治，商务和友谊关系，而且做往往比说要难得多。

As a kid this saying probably just meant that you shouldn’t call your little brother a dickhead. But as you grow up and get a little bit more life experience you can start to add new meanings to it. For example, saying “something nice” might not just mean a compliment but rather something that is going to add to the situation and help the people that you are speaking with. Like the Buddha said, “do not speak unless it improves on silence“. So from this point of view the saying is a lesson in helping other as well as being mindful of what one is saying.

小时候，这句话可能只是教你不该叫弟弟白痴，但随着你慢慢长大，经历再多一点，你就会意识到这句话还有更多的含义。比如，“善意的言辞”可能不仅仅是赞美之辞，也可以是适应情景，有利于说话方的话。因此，从这点来说，它给你上了一课，教导你帮助别人，留心别人说话。

In the business and political worlds this saying is perhaps one of the most important rules there is when dealing with other people. You never say anything bad about a business partner or a competitor because it will inevitably come back to harm your reputation. The consequences in the political world are even worse. Gossip and harsh speech can have implications for careers, national progress and even international relations. Your mom was right about this one. Unless you have something helpful, intelligent and proactive to say, don’t say anything.

在商务和政治领域，这句话甚至是一条很重要的人际交往法则。你永远不能说合作伙伴或者竞争者的坏话，因为这最终会反射回来，损害你的声誉。在政治领域，后果往往更加严重。不实的流言和恶毒的言论会影响职业发展，国家进步，甚至国际关系。母亲深谙这一点。除非你能说出一些有帮助，智慧，前瞻性的话，否则最好什么都别说。

5. If you don't do it now, then when are you going to do it?

 5. 现在不做，更待何时？

If you are a regular reader of The Daily Mind (good on you!) then you will know that I am always talking about procrastination. So much of our lives is wasted because we hate the idea of now and we love the idea of tomorrow. But when tomorrow comes and we still haven’t accomplished anything we feel regret, depression and ever so unfulfilled.

如果你是每日心灵的忠实读者，那你就会知道我经常讨论耽搁的话题。正因为讨厌今天，热爱明天的想法，人生中的许多时刻都被我们浪费掉了。但当明天真的来临，我们还是没能完成感到遗憾，沮丧的事情，没有成就感。

One of the sad truths about life is that you can lose it at any time. Death is certain to come but the time of its arrival is most uncertain. So you might not even have a tomorrow in order to accomplish your task. Really, if you look closely at the matter, now is all you have. Now is all you have. If you don’t do it now, when are you going to do it? What if that opportunity never comes or if you run out of time because you are too busy. Will you be filled with regrets on your deathbed?

人生中一个悲伤的事实是你可能随时就会失去生命。死亡一定会来，但时间却不确定。因此，你甚至可能都没有明天去完成你想做的事。实际上，若你仔细看待这件事，你会发现，现在才是你真正拥有的全部。现在是你拥有的一切。如果现在不做想做的事，那你想什么时候去做呢？假如你再没有机会做了，或者你太忙，没有时间去做。临终时，你会不会充满了遗憾呢？

Again, we can add a little bit more grown up meaning to a saying that your mom probably said a thousand times. Of all the lessons she taught you this is one that really needs to hit home. She is right about this one. If you don’t do it now then when are you going to do it? My guess is never.

同样的，我们可以为某句母亲说过很多次的话再添加一些成长的含义。在所有的教诲中，这句话真正切中要害。母亲深谙这一点。如今不做，更待何时？我猜想，答案将是永远不做。

What lessons was your mom right about?

你母亲有哪些正确的教诲呢？

Every mom has a myriad of different lessons for their children. It would be wonderful if you could try to remember a few and leave a comment. It would be even more fantastic if you could try to think of some examples in your adult life of when the motherly wisdom helped you out.

每位母亲都曾给孩子们无数不同的教诲。如果你能记起一些并留言，那很好。如果你能想到一些成年后，母亲的智慧帮助你走出困境的事例，那就更好了。