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David Deangelo-Keys To Creating "Chemistry" On First Dates
如何在第一次约会时制造“化学反应“（融洽感）
***QUESTION FROM A READER***Dave,
In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn
'what topics fascinate women.' I found this newsletter specifically interesting because I've
found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find
anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing
secrets," but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that
fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
M.G. Gainesville, FL.

一位读者的信：
dave,
几周前我收到的一封信里对于什么话题可以吸引女性给了一些建议，我发现这些很有意思，因为我自己就遇到过在约会时没有话题聊的情况
使得气氛很沉默。你也推荐了一本书“comedy writing secrets《喜剧写作的秘密》”，但是有没有能够教人如何讲故事的书，或者什么样的话题可以
真正地引起女性的兴趣呢，敬请赐教，不胜感谢。

>>>MY COMMENTS:
   This is a great question.
   There are really two very different (and
important) aspects to the "conversations with
women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
我的意见：
这是一个很好的问题！
涉及到了两点非常有难度也非常重要的和女孩子谈话的问题
1.如何聊
2.聊什么
"THE HOW..."
   Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women.
   It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
   Well... partially.
  It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHTWAY.
   In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION,
then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about...because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL
anything towards you.

如何做：
大部分人都想知道该和女孩子谈些什么呢？
似乎只有跟她们聊她们感兴趣的东西才是合乎情理的，对吗？，呵呵，这只是对了一部分啊。
实际上不管谈什么话题，最重要的是你谈论的方式！换句话说，如果你不懂得如何依靠交流来产生吸引力，
那么不论你谈论什么话题都是没有用的。。。
因为，你这样的表现根本无法带给女孩子任何感觉！
   The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics
   ...and many other things.
   My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and
other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.
关于怎么做的问题，包括了很多方面
你得身体语言；
眼神的交流；
骄傲风趣的谈话方式；
挑逗；
发出各种信号；
引领话题；
处理各种常见的问题和情况；
等等很多方面
我的观点是如果你聊天时经常陷入尴尬的气氛，神经紧张，或者其他一些困难的境地，
那么你可能需要更多地先掌握好如何谈话的能力，然后再去考虑具体的聊天内容了。
"THE WHAT..."
   With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.
   But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.
   What topics do women PAY to hear about?
   Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.
聊什么的的问题：
事实上，有很多非常好的话题可以和女性讨论！
但是我并不想仅仅地把这些话题告诉你们而已，我希望你们先自己思考一下，想想女孩子究竟会对什么话题感兴趣呢？
线索：娱乐杂志，爱情小说，肥皂剧，午夜剧，时尚频道。。。如果你仔细想想这些，那答案是显而易见的了。

   For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
- Drama
- Conflict
- Romance
- Famous people and their lives
   So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.
无论是何种原因，女人一定是倾向喜欢这些东西的：
戏剧；
冲突；
浪漫故事；
名人八卦；
所以呢，跟女孩子聊这些东西将是非常容易的事情 
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.Talk about how someone famous is doing
something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures
just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".
These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic mind.
还有几点建议：
1。对明星进行一些心理上的分析（8卦一下，然后dhv）。
讲一些人干过的一些愚蠢的事情，然后，用心理学的观点来分析他们，
你可以先这样说：演员，摇滚明星还有些著名的运动员有些标志性的行为比如爱做疯狂的事情，对感情不忠。。等等，然后说“我不会这样”

2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what's going on.
   Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.
   Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking
that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
   Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.
2。找些周围有趣的人群，然后猜他们正在干什么。
看看你周围，然后在附近桌子上看看有没有看起来像是第一次约会的人。
然后，开始取笑那个男的穿着，姿势，任何事情，然后说那个跟他约会的女孩心里正想这个男的真是个笨蛋，不论他怎么恭维，还是什么都得不到
最后呢，就可以分析一下你们附近其他人的有趣的事，女人喜欢聊这个！
   NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to discuss the BODY LANGUAGE of the people around
you... and comment on what it means. If you are interested in learning more about Body Language,
and how to use it to attract women, make sure you take a minute and look at THIS right now:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/BodyLanguage
注释：谈论周围人的身体语言然后再做些评论将是最好的一种方式（。。。广告。。。）

3. Make fun of someone famous.
   Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named Jennifer.
   All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.
  It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.
3。取笑名人
比如讲讲超级模特都是非常瘦的，或者Ben Affleck总是跟叫 Jennifer的女孩约会
你要做的就是多读些八卦的杂志就可以收集到不少这方面的信息了。
这是娱乐，也是搞笑，而且这还是一个表现你自己的方法

4. Talk about other people's love lives.
   Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then
volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
   Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually
lesbians.
4.谈论其他人的爱情生活。
谈论别人经历过的问题，尤其是感情上的，然后用些荒谬的理论来解释这些发生的事情。
提到你得一个朋友跟他女友分手了，原因是那个女孩增重了，然后当你说完，就随便编一个理论出来，
说如果一个女人去增重，那她一定是个les。。
   But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent. ...I think you "feel me".
   The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE THEM.
   The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're talking!
   You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what else to do as you talk.
但是，一定要注意的是故事要确保有意思，你尽可以去发挥你得创造力。。。
有一点是，女人会很自然地陷入到某个话题中去
和女人谈论他们感兴趣的话题最大的好处是你可以随时把你学到的东西运用到谈话中去！
   Oh, by the way...
   Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking,death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars
and your secret love: wrestling.
NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the
biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.
  You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY
disappear.
另外，有一些话题是要避免去谈论的：
强迫性关系的，诱拐，围捕，死人，象棋，电脑，动漫书，星际大战，还有你若是喜欢摔跤，也别在女人面前谈论。。
这些永远不要谈论的话题可能会把女人吓跑了，还有那些让你看起来像失败者的故事也不要讲，尤其是两人刚开始接触的时候！
如果你建立了一种不好的感觉出来，那么可能你所有的吸引力都不会再起作用了。。。

   Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how
desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or
if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.
   Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between
you and her.
还有，必须要避免把你消极的一面表现出来，比如谈论你对某事非常绝望，或者你已经渴望约会很久了，或者问对方你是否是她喜欢的类型。。。
其他让一些显得你很弱的话题，也不要拿出来说
记住，与女人成功交流的关键是能否在你们之间创造出一种情感上的吸引力。

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   I'll talk to you again soon.
      Your Friend,
      David D.