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“勾搭”(hooking up)比约会更为常见。在那些美国高中生中间，“勾搭”指青少年间并非情侣的亲密关系，但它是个意思含糊不清的词，既包括亲吻，也可以包括性行为。对此，专家、家长及青少年各执一词。专家、家长们强调"勾搭"有害的一面，而青少年则声称在所谓"勾搭"中所隐含的"友谊"、"情感"及"真诚"……随着因特网成为青少年社会生活的一部分，“勾搭”在青少年中广受欢迎。许多青少年把自己的个人简介放到网站上，并在聊天室一呆就是几个小时，而他们的父母通常毫不知情。尽管青少年“勾搭”文化与20世纪70年代的单身酒吧有诸多相同之处，但是原来的耻辱感和偏见尚未完全消失。大多数参与勾搭活动的青少年都谨小慎微。尽管许多青少年坚信勾搭绝对是一种主流行为，但最好还是静悄悄私下里进行。不管父母们和青少年性学专家政治立场如何不同，他们往往一致认为，勾搭对青少年不是一件好事，在情感上是有害的，对身体也有潜在的害处。尽管父母和专家们千方百计让青少年了解勾搭的危险，但许多高中生认为，既然他们不打算结婚，为什么不把注意力放在友谊、学业或者运动上？如果他们不伤害任何人，也不让谁怀孕，那么偶尔娱乐一下有什么害处？真相在于，青少年用于勾搭的时间比成人认为的要少，对于大多数青少年来说，友谊已经成为他们社会生活中最重要的一部分。
Ricky Menezes, a 22-year-old from Marlborough, Mass., says he knows he will hook up with "about 20 girls" in the next month.

How does he know this, you ask? Ricky knows this because he's what we call a "bad boy" -- the type of guy who knows exactly how to act, what to say and how to manipulate women into giving him what he wants.

"It all started in high school," Ricky said. "I started being the outgoing, crazy, funny kid that everyone thought was fun and wanted to hang out with."

After being validated by his peers in high school, Ricky said he has more or less mastered the art of being a bad boy, and has done so with one overriding goal in mind -- sexual conquest性征服.

"I don't pretend to be anything I'm not," Ricky said. "I'm honest and outspoken. I say that I'm just looking to hook up勾搭. ... I'm not afraid to go for it, and I rarely get rejected.

"Oh, and I'm in a band. You have to be in a band. Girls love guys in bands," he added.

Most everyone knows -- or at least knows of -- a stereotypical "bad boy" like Ricky. The guy with such high self-esteem he could aptly be called a narcissist. The guy who wins women over with deceit, callousness and impulsive behavior. Basically, the type of guy who resembles a real-life version of Hugh Grant's character in "Bridget Jones' Diary."

And there might be more than just a grain of truth in these mantras about bad boys; new research suggests they might actually be attracting more women than their "nicer" counterparts.

The Positive Side of Negative Traits

Researchers at New Mexico State University in Las Cruces gave 200 college students personality tests to see how many of what psychologists call "dark triad traits" they possessed. These traits include callousness, impulsive behavior, extroversion, narcissism and various other anti-social traits for which "bad boys" are known.

The researchers also asked about the student's sex lives, their feelings about sexual relationships, their number of sexual partners, and what they are seeking in sexual or romantic relationships.

According to Peter Jonason, lead study investigator, although society tends to look down upon these "negative" dark triad personality traits, there seems to be quite an upside to being a bad boy.

"We would traditionally consider these dark triad traits to be adverse personality traits, and we think women would avoid these kinds of men, but what we show is counterintuitive -- that women are attracted to these bad boys and they do pretty well in terms of sheer numbers of sexual partners," Jonason explained. "They're taking quantity over quality as their sexual agenda, being serially monogamous and having multiple partners or one-night stands."

Jonason compared the type of "dark triad bad boy" that the study refers to as a modern-day James Bond figure -- a man with little empathy for others, a penchant for fast cars and even faster women, and a seeker of short-term rather than long-term goals -- especially concerning the opposite sex.

And because these characters appear in this study to be successful at achieving their short-term goals -- which, in this case, is a short-term sexual relationship -- Jonason believes such character traits have persevered in so many people because they seem to be evolutionarily successful.