西安五谷渔粉:简单易行的方法让你变得更有耐心(双语）

You probably know those situations when you stand in line in a grocery store and there is a person (usually an old lady) in front of you who buys a ton of things and then gets about 100 coupons out of her pocket book. The girl (or a guy) at the cash register has to manually type in each of these coupon codes, figure out why about half of them do not work and explain to the lady why her bill is 10 cents higher than what she thought it would be. Oh, and don’t forget that she wants to write a check to pay for her groceries but she can’t find her glasses so you spend another 10 minutes standing in line and thinking of all possible torture that she deserves. Before you know it (actually you do know it because you look at the clock about every 2 seconds) you have wasted 20 minutes of your valuable time and now you are late, angry and infuriated.

       也许你会遇到这一场景：当你在一家杂货店里排队付款时，你前面有人（通常是老妇人）买了一大堆的东西，并从她的袖珍书中掏出百十张优惠券。负责收钱的小姑娘（或者是小伙子）只好逐一去鉴定那些优惠码，并挑出半数已经过期的，还要解释为什么账单上显示的数字比妇人预想的高出了10美分。哦，天哪，她还要签单付款，却找不到眼镜放哪了。又十分钟过去了，你站在队伍之中，暗自咒骂着自己的遭遇。当你意识到（事实上你非常清楚，因为几乎是每两秒钟你就要看一下表）自己为此浪费了20分钟的宝贵时间，并且已经迟到的时候，不由得气塞填胸。

Even the most patient people in the world would probably lose it in situations like this one. However, you do not have to. There are many more situations in our lives that require profound patience and I know it probably better than anybody else.

       遇到这种情况，再有耐心的人也会失控。其实大可不必如此。我们的一生会遇到很多波折，需要我们有着坚强地毅力，也许这是最重要的。

Last year was nothing but a test of patience for me and my husband. Besides from raising two toddlers (a task that requires enormous amounts of patience), we were waiting for an answer about the house that we’d put a bid on. We were ready to move on with our lives but we were stuck living with my in-laws and not knowing what future held for us. It wasn’t until 2010 that we finally got the house (actually the house that we bought is not the one that we’d placed a bid on.) I am very grateful for everything that happened in 2009 because it taught me the most important skill of all – PATIENCE.

       去年对于我们夫妇而言就是一次关乎耐心的考验。除了要养育两个婴孩（一项需要付出巨大耐心的任务），还要等候那所已经预订了的房子的消息。我们打算从公婆处搬出来独立生活，却还是要寄居在那儿，并且对未来的前景一无所知。直到2010年，我们终于有了房子（并不是我们原来预订的那所）。对于2009年所发生的一切，我心怀无限感激，因为它教会了我这世界上最重要的技能——耐心。

There is more than one reason why you need patience. Of course you do not want to get mad in situations like the one I’ve described above or when you are stuck in traffic. You also want to take the most of your life and not spend all your time being frustrated and mad at situations that you cannot change. You also want to see results from your endeavors whether it is starting a new business, a blog or losing weight.

       人要有耐心的理由不止一条。当然，遇到象我前面所描述的场景时，或者是遭遇堵车时，相信你也不想抓狂。你期待能够掌控大部分的人生，而不是终生为不可改变的形势而沮丧。你期待自己的付出能够有所收获，不管是做生意还是开博客，或者是在减肥。

Patience is a skill that will pay off greatly because you will be able to find balance, happiness and success in your life. Actually I do not know how you can find these things without patience

       耐心是非常值得拥有的，进而才能感受生活之中的平和、快乐和成功。没有耐心，真不知你如何才能感受到它们。

Our world is fast-paced and time is one of our most valuable resources. However, the next time that you want to see things going faster remember that the only fast thing in our life is failing because of an impatient decision. Climbing to the top always requires time and a lot of patience.

       当前世界节奏加快，时间成了我们最为昂贵的资源之一。然而，在期待加快进度之前，不要忘记唯有草率抉择而导致的失败才是人生之中进度最快的。攀登高峰往往需要时间和耐心。

If you are ready to change yourself and learn patience then look through these tips that I have learned while looking for life balance:

       如果你想改变自我，使自己变得更有耐心，可以参考以下一些技巧，这些都是我在寻求生活平衡时所学到的。

1. Identify your triggers.

This is simple. Just find out when you get impatient so that you are ready for action. It’s like solving a mathematical word problem. Before you can come up with an equation and an answer you must know your data.

1、弄清发火情由
      很简单，只要看看什么时候你会失去耐心以至于准备发作。就如解决一个数学难题，在列出方程式得到答案以前，先要清楚相关数据。

Some people get impatient in traffic and lines and others are impatient with kids. Some might give up any new venture if it does not bring results within a few days (of course the guilty party will be a business partner or circumstances) and others will get mad every time that their request is not immediately fulfilled (the husband does not take trash out within 5 seconds and the kids do not clean their room in 10 minutes.)

       有些人在堵车时或者排队时变得急躁，而有些人是在教育小孩上。如果几天内新项目没有斩获，有些人便会选择放弃（当然是认为错在合作者或者是环境不合适）；而有些人一旦要求没有立刻得到满足，他们就会发火（丈夫五秒内没有将垃圾清出去，小孩十分钟之内没有将他们的房间打扫干净）。

2.Become mindful.

We are often impatient because we constantly think about the future instead of living in the present. If you become mindful of every moment of your life then you will be able to appreciate each of these moments. It does not matter whether you are standing in line or relaxing on the beach, just remember that your life is precious and you can’t waste it by getting mad.

2、时刻留心
       我们缺乏耐心，常常是因为我们一味着眼于未来而忽视了当下。如果能够养成时刻留意的习惯，你会为之心怀感激，不管是等候在队伍中还是休闲于海滩上。记住人生宝贵，把时间用在发火上不值得。

3. Fill your time.

Try to think of things that you can do while waiting. Do not concentrate on the fact that you are late or that you are bored and you want everything to be fast. Stretch out while you are in a traffic jam (as always, here is a great video from Yogatic – Yoga in the Car) and think of the most pleasant moments of your life while you are standing in line. Plan what you are going to fix for supper or think of a new post idea (apparently, this is something that I do a lot ) while you are waiting for somebody who is late or just fly away into you own dreamland. We get mad because we feel that our time is wasted but if you find something important to do then you won’t even notice how the time flies.

3、学会打发时间
      在等待过程中，想想能做哪些事情，不要将精力集中在你迟到了或者是心烦的希望能快一点的这类事情上。遇到堵车时要学会超然物外（通常可以在汽车中播放一些瑜伽音乐），排队时想想自己人生当中的那些快乐时光。有人迟到了，在你等他的过程中，可以考虑一下晚餐的安排，或者想个工作上的新点子（似乎这件事我做得最多 ），或者畅游于自己的幻想世界中。我们之所以不爽，是因为我们觉得自己的时间被浪费掉了。倘若能够找些事情去做，你甚至都不会注意到时光的飞逝。

4. Exercise your patience.

Here is a simple yet powerful exercise to train your patience. Sit still for 10 minutes or more without doing anything. It is much harder than it seems at first because you will notice how impatient you will get after about a minute. You can also walk as slow as you possibly can to your car in the parking lot or try to eat your lunch at a much slower pace than usual, (this can actually help you lose some weight too if this is one of your goals.)

4、培养耐心
       有一个简单而有效的训练方法：静静坐着那儿十分钟以上，一动不动。这看起来容易，做起来却很难。坐在那儿差不多一分钟，你就会发现自己充满烦躁。

       也可以在去开车的路上走得尽量迟缓，或者用餐时吃得比平常慢上许多（这方法倒是能够帮你减肥，如果这也是你的一个目标的话）。

5. Meditate.

Meditation quiets your mind and teaches you patience. Try it as often as you can.

5、冥想
冥想能够使人安静，让你变得更有耐心。尽量多做。

6. Slow down.

Most of us have very busy and fast-paced lives and we get impatient when the world is not moving at our speed. What if you are too fast for this world? Eliminate some of the unnecessary activities from your schedule, reset your goals and priorities and generally relax about life.

6、放慢节奏

       许多人生活节奏很快，一旦社会跟不上其节奏，便会很不耐烦。要如此之快去做什么呢？不妨取消一些不必要的活动，重新对目标做些调整，让自己的生活轻松一些。

7. Practice slow activities.

The first time I tried Pilates I hated it because it seemed too slow and boring for me (I was used to kick-boxing, step and dancing.) However, as I continued exercising I noticed that my concentration and patience in general improved and now I can’t imagine my life without Pilates and Yoga. Apart from Body and Mind exercises you can also try slow activities like knitting, playing chess, painting, gardening or fishing (I personally can’t stand fishing though. It’s too boring for me but tastes differ ). Learn to appreciate the process of waiting and the result that you get in the end.

7、练习静功

        初练普拉提时，我颇为厌烦。对我而言，它太过缓慢和枯燥（我那时学习跆拳道和踢踏舞）。然而，当我继续练习时，发现自己的注意力越来越集中，耐心也在不断提高，如今我已无法想象自己生命中没了瑜伽和普拉提会是什么样子。

       除了这些身心修炼，你也可以尝试一些其它的慢活儿，比如编织、下棋、绘画、园艺或者钓鱼（个人并不喜欢，因为太过乏味。当然各有所好啦 ）。

      学会享受等待的过程，你会终有所得。

8. Ask for patience.

Depending on your spiritual beliefs you can choose to ask for patience. I can tell you that last year I was asking for patience a lot and I think that my prayers were heard because I got through the year without any nervous breakdowns. I also got everything I was patiently waiting for and I am extremely happy about it.

8、为耐心祈祷

根据自己的精神信仰，你可以祈求上天赋予你耐心。

可以告诉你的是，去年为此我做了许多祷告，我觉得我的祈祷被上帝听到了，因为整整一年，我都没有精神紧张过。任何事我都耐心等待，并且乐在其中。

9. Get a slow pet.

 You can always get a turtle and watch it every night and admire its patient way of life. I am sure that watching a turtle or a snail can put you in a very meditative state of mind and you will be able to learn the power of patience.

9、养个行动迟缓的小动物

         可以养只甲鱼，每晚观察一番，你会艳羡于其生命中的耐受之道。

         观察甲鱼或者蜗牛的生活，可以使你陷入心境的冥想之中，从而让你学会耐受之力，我确信这一点。

10．Play games that develop patience.

How about playing a Solitaire? Here is The Complete Book of Solitaire and Patience Games. Some other games that develop patience are different types of crossword puzzles (here are a few websites where you can try them – Japanese Crosswords , Crosswords and Sudoku at Washington Post)

10、玩一些提升耐心的游戏

       来场纸牌游戏如何？

      提升耐心的游戏还包括各种各样地纵横填字游戏（这儿有些站点，你可一试。——日本纵横填字游戏，华盛顿邮报中的数独和填字游戏）。

11. Count till 10 or 100.

This tip is super easy and works every time. When you get mad and impatient in any situation just leave the room or just close your eyes and count till 10, 100 (somebody might even need a 1000 )

11、数数

        这一技巧超级简单并且总能生效。当你烦躁生气之时，不管何种情形，离开房间，闭上双眼数到10或者100（可能有人需要数到1000 ）。

12．Breathe.

 As always there is nothing better than the simple and pure power of breathing. Take a deep breath in and breathe out, once again. Now imagine that the tension in your entire body melts away and you are flowing softly in the stream of serenity. Continue breathing deeply. In and out, in and out. You can close your eyes and imagine that you are on the edge of the most amazing waterfall that carries away your impatience and tension and fills you with serenity, calmness and patience.

12、深呼吸

       通常情况下，这是最为简单有效的方法。深吸一口气，然后呼出，再深吸一口，再呼出。想象着全身的紧张感随之消融，自己恬然地漂浮于静静的溪流之中。持续深呼吸，吸进去呼出来，吸进去再呼出来。闭上双眼，想象自己置身于壮美秀丽的瀑布边缘，烦躁和压力随之倾泻而下，平静与从容从而充盈于心。

Do you need some patience n your life? Please tell me if any of these tips were helpful for you and if you have any of your own secrets that help you practice patience.

       生活中你是否需要一些耐心呢？上述技巧中哪些对你更有效呢，或者你还有着哪些自己的小绝招，请来信告知。

Keep it balanced and patient!

保持平和淡定！