睡外国人 豆瓣:想像给你孩子的大脑插上翅膀

新的学年刚刚开始，测验分级就已经涌来---而且，并不总是有好的结果。在学业上，你的孩子的学习风格是不是有时阻碍的他的成功？是不是他经常被贴上缓慢、懒散或者不切实际的标签？没有理解和支持，那些具有与他们同龄人不同的学习风格的孩子可能会感到低自尊、压力太大而带来的焦虑或者对学校和学习感到消极。

Not every kid can be a super learner, but every kid can aspire to reach her potential. Your child's imagination is a resource that can be used to maximize her own individual learning style and boost her brain power and overall school performance.

并不是所有的孩子都可能是超级的学习能手，但是每个孩子都有希望发挥他的潜力。你的孩子的想象力是一种巨大的资源，能够最大限度的利用他自己个人的学习风格并促进他的脑力的发展并在总体上取得良好的学业表现。

Here are six imagination tools to try:

你可以试一下下面这六种想像：

Go on a Tour of Her Brain. Have your child take a few deep "balloon breaths" -- with her hands around her navel, have her breathe slowly and deeply into her lower belly so it presses into her hands like an inflating balloon. Now ask her to close her eyes and take you on a tour of her brain and describe what she sees. Which images and symbols are happy? Which are gloomy or sad? Which part is associated with homework and school? The images she conjures up will give you a common set of symbols to talk about and work with.

参观一下他的大脑。让你的孩子来几次深度的“气球呼吸”---让他把手房子肚脐上，缓慢呼吸并把空气送到下腹部，让他好像在摸着一个充气的气球。现在，让他闭上眼睛来带着你参观一下他的大脑并描述他看到了什么。那些图像和符号是幸福性质的？那些是沮丧和难过的？哪个部分是与家庭作业和学习想联系的？他想像的那些图像会给你一套符号，你可以对此进行谈论和研究。

Clean out His Brain. Encourage your child to take time before homework to clear out his fuzzy brain of negative thoughts about his abilities or the subject at hand. Have him start balloon breathing, then imagine cleaning out the dust, clutter and gloomy places with white soapy bubbles, light, or anything else that pops up. He can picture his brain primed to learn, or he can increase his brain power with a Super Smart Solution. Finish by having him imagine how satisfied he'll feel when he successfully completes his homework.

清空他的大脑。鼓励你的孩子在做家庭作业前花时间清空他那含混的大脑，把那些关于他的能力或者相关手头的主题的消极思维清除出去。让他开始气球呼吸，然后想像清空了那些布满灰尘、充满垃圾的阴暗的场所，这些场所通常有很多白色肥皂泡沫、光线或者突然出现的其他东西。他可能想像他的大脑准备好开始学习，或者他可以用超级聪明的方案来增强他的脑力。

Invite a Subject Wizard to Help. Your child can close her eyes and ask for special help -- with reading from a Reading Wizard, or math help from a Math Wizard. For example, have her describe the wizard in detail and tell the wizard what she wants him to do. In one girl's case, a Spelling Wizard helped to turn her spelling drills into a fun studying game. Her spelling improved to the point where there were just 3 or 4 errors per paragraph dictation down from 27! Wizards can also help during quizzes too, when they can come up with the right answer even when the child can't.

让一个主题向导来帮助他。让你的孩子闭上眼睛，寻求特殊的帮助---用阅读向导帮主阅读，或者来自数学向导来帮助数学。例如，让他详细描述向导，并告诉向导他想从向导那里得到什么。这里有一个小女孩的案例，拼写向导帮助她把拼写联系转变成一个有趣的学习 游戏。她的拼写提高了很多，在27段听写中，每段仅有3个或4个错误！在测验期间，向导也能帮助他，孩子没有答案的时候，向导也能给出正确答案。

Give His Feelings an Identity. Next time your child is obviously distressed while doing homework, ask him to name the feeling. Then ask him what the feeling wants to tell you. When children are permitted to give a voice to their feelings, such as anger, their feelings will have a lot to tell you! Ask your child what the feeling looks like and where it lives in his body. Once a feeling has a name, voice or identity, you can work with it. You can negotiate with it, ask it questions, draw it, erase it, surround it with a soothing or neutralizing color, and so on.

给他的情绪一种身份。下次当你的孩子在做家庭作业有明显的烦躁情绪是，让他给这种情绪起个名字。然后问他这种情绪想告诉你什么。当孩子们被允许表达他们的情绪时，比如愤怒，他们的情绪会有很多东西告诉你！问你的孩子这种情绪的感觉以及这种情绪处于什么样的位置。一旦一种情绪有了名字，声音或者身份，你就能因势利导。你可以同它协商，问它问题，画出它来，擦掉它，用一种镇静的或者中和性的颜色等等来圈住它。

Create the Ideal School. Listen to your child's thoughts and concerns about school, and ask him about his favorite subjects: What are the easiest and the hardest? How would he like school to be? Have him visualize what he desires -- describing his dream school. You will learn a lot about him by doing this, it will bring you closer, and it will give you lots of ideas to play with.

创建理想学校。倾听你的孩子对学校的思考和关注，并询问他最喜爱的科目：最容易的是什么？最难的是什么？他希望学校是什么样子？让他把他的期望用图像呈现出来---描绘他梦中的学校。这样，你会从他身上学到很多东西，这将带给你亲密的关系，并且，这会给你带来许多主意来考虑。

Give Tests a Positive Spin. Have your child imagine the grade he hopes for at the top of a returned test. Ask him to picture the smile on his teacher's face when she hands it to him. This is not hocus-pocus. Visualizing a good grade will reinforce his goal and encourage him to work hard to achieve it. The rewards for clear goals and hard work are practical magic.

让测验积极旋转。让你的孩子想像他希望的反馈测验的最高级别。让他想像老师在反馈信息时脸上的笑容。这并不是欺骗。想像一个良好的级别会强化他的目标并鼓励他努力工作来实现它。对清晰目标和努力工作的奖励实际上非常有魔力。