卵泡发育不好中药处方:改变一些人生活的九个旅行问题调查

有关改變一些人一生的旅行经验的九个问题调查

By GRETCHEN RUBIN

　　作者：GRETCHEN RUBIN

One of my resolutions is to Enter into the interests of other people’s lives. When you think of people getting along harmoniously — whether in a family, or among friends, or in an office – people make an effort to enter into the interests of each other’s lives.My friend Michael Melcher (author of the terrific book The Creative Lawyer — which isn’t just for lawyers) pointed out to me an area where this is often an issue: with travels. It’s quite common for people to come back from big, life-changing trips, and feel let down because no one seems very interested in what they saw or thought or experienced.

　　感受别人的生活乐趣是我的决定之一。当你想和人们和睦相处时——不管是在一个家庭里，或者是朋友中间，后者是办公室——人们努力想感受别人的生活乐趣。我的朋友Michael Melcher（很棒的书The Creative Lawyer的作者——不仅仅适用于律师）向我指出，一个总是存在问题的领域：旅游。从出趟远门、改变一生的旅游回来，而且感觉很放松，这对人们来说相当普遍，因为似乎没有人对看到什么、想什么或者经历了什么感兴趣。

Part of being a good friend, colleague, or family member is to show an interest, but this can be challenging. Often, people need help finding ways to talk about their travels in ways that are interesting to people who weren’t there.

　　作为一个好友、一个同事，或者一个家庭成员，就是要表示一种兴趣，但是这可能具有挑战性。很多时候，人们需要帮助，寻找谈论其感兴趣而不在跟前的人的方式。

I’m not much of a traveler, myself, but Michael is. He suggested nine questions that you might ask, to enter into the interests of a newly returned traveler. The point, of course, is not to fake an interest, but rather to find a way to be sincerely interested.

　　我自己算不上是一个好的旅行者，但Michael是。为了感受一个刚旅游归来的旅游者的乐趣，他提出九个也许你能回答的问题。当然，问题的关键在于，不是假装有兴趣，而是很想找到一种确实感兴趣的方法。

1.    What was the best moment of the entire trip?

　　1、在整个旅行中，最美好的一刻是？

2. What are two interesting things about China [or wherever] that the average person doesn’t know?

　　2、关于中国（或任何地方），您感兴趣而一般人不知道两个事物是什么？

3. Tell me about one person you met.

　　3、告诉我你在旅行中遇到的其中一个人。

4. Now that you’ve been there yourself, when you think of China, what’s the first image that comes into your head?

　　4、现在，你一个人在那里，当你认为是中国的时候，映入你脑海的第一印象是什么？

5. What was the hardest or most frustrating part of the trip?

　　5、旅行中最艰难或最沮丧的什么？

6. Did anything go wrong that seems funny now? (I often remind myself of my Secret of Adulthood that “The things that go wrong often make the best memories.”)

　　6、有没有做什么错事，现在看来滑稽的？（我经常在我的《成年秘密》中提醒我自己，“做错的事情将会让人记得更深刻。”）

7. What little, ordinary thing did you miss from your usual routine?

　　7、在日常的旅游线路中，你所错过的微小、普通的事情是什么？

8. What did you learn about yourself?

　　8、你了解你自己多少？

9. Now that you’ve been to China, what are two other places you’d like to go?

　　9、现在，你已经去过中国，你喜欢的其它两个地方是什么？

What am I missing? Have you identified any questions that are good at invoking interesting conversation? And travelers, when you come home, what questions are interesting to answer, and that show interest in what you’ve experienced? Have you ever been frustrated by the fact that people don’t seem interested in hearing about a trip or adventure that was very significant to you? Because I’m not much of a traveler, myself, I know that I haven’t shown as much interest in people’s travels as I should have. Something to work on.

　　我正在错过什么？你有没有发现任何你可以引用的有趣的谈话？旅行者，当你回到家时，你有兴趣回答的问题是什么？对你所经历过事情，感兴趣的是什么？是不是曾经被人们似乎没兴趣听而对你却有重大意义的旅行或者冒险所挫败？因为我自己算不上是一个好的旅行者，我知道我没有对人们的旅行表示出我应该有的兴趣。有很多地方需要改进。

Because I’ve been thinking a lot about “home” for my next book, Happier at Home, I’ve spent time cruising around Design * Sponge — “your home for all things design.” Good stuff! 

　　因为我一直在想关于我的下一本有关家的书，Happier at Home，我花时间四处旅行——“您家庭所有事情的计划。”好事！

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