乌干达首都坎帕拉机场:搭讪和把妹的技巧

以地方为话题

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Most women are interested in Traveling or exotic places. I've always gone to the Dominican Republic to party and I find that many upper class Europeans go there. Don't be afraid to learn a few different districts of world cities like Berlin or London. Ex: Oh where are you from sugar? I'm from Tarnow, Poland. Oh? Tarnow!?! I had a friend in Dabrowska Tarnow for a few years! I'd love to come again! It allows you to start a conversation and get invited to their homes and get guaranteed booty calls in the future while traveling.If traveling domestic, don't be afraid to mention (but not brag) about all the fun European cities you've been to. Talk more about the people and culture than how cool it is to travel and be rich. Even if you've never been outside of your home town, say you've been anywhere. London, Paris, and Milan are big cities that excite women. I have been to Europe a few times but I love talking to women in America about my travels. They are instantly fascinated! But beware, many European vacationers in Mexico and the Caribbean aren't too impressed with your travels. Mention there countries and their neighborhoods. ( BONUS POINTS = I learned about 10 phrases in Spanish, French, German, Polish, Russian, and Dutch! If you hear them talking in that language, say a simple phrase. Then they'll probably say Sprechen Sie Deutsch or Parlez vous francais or whatever. Say a small bit in that language and then introduce yourself in English) I was smart enough to figure that trick out at age 13! It literally has worked 100%!!!!! -Jonny 

大部分女孩子都会对旅行或没去过的地方感兴趣。我在多米尼加共和国就发现了很多欧洲上层社会一族去那里旅游。所以说要学着了解一些世界性的城市如伦敦、柏林等。举例说明：你来自哪里？我来自波兰的塔尔努夫。喔？塔尔努夫啊，我有一个朋友在那里好多年了！我也想去哦！看到没，这样就可以进行交谈的开场白，而且可能会被邀请到他的家乡去玩，旅游的时候也可以打电话过去。如果只是在国内旅游过，也可以讲你去过的有趣的欧洲城市（说话的人是欧洲人），但是也不能因此而洋洋自得。建议谈话的时候将重点放在那里的文化和风土人情上，而不是一味强调旅行本身多有趣以及炫富。即使你从没有远离过你的家乡，你也可以说你到过的任何地方。伦敦、巴黎、米兰等这些大城市都会让女孩子为之兴奋。我去过几次欧洲，但是我更喜欢给她们讲述我在美国的旅行。她们几乎马上就着迷了。不过也有要注意的地方，你的旅行可能吸引不了在墨西哥和加勒比海度假的欧洲人。这时候可以多讲一些他们的国家以及邻国。（补充一下：我会西班牙、法国、德国、波兰、俄罗斯以及荷兰的一些基本短语。如果你听到他们说这些语言的话，就接上一点简单的话，这个时候他们可能会说德语或者其他，然而你只需要说一点就行，然后说自己来自英国。）我在13岁的时候就已经可以会这类把戏，而且可以说屡试不爽！！！-乔尼

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No frills online opener 

网上交友的开场白

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Lately, I've been trying to improve my way of attracting girls over the internet. I searched new ideas and tips that helped me a little bit. But the authors were always saying "you can use this, But find out what works best for you" I would always say to myself "i don't think I'm that creative" But I've noticed the more you experience,the more Nice developed ideas come to you. A lot of guys always have this one girl on facebook or myspace that they are trying to talk to. But just can't seem to find a nice opener to start things out with. Well i have something that might help you guys and it works quite fine for me. Add the girl you've been having your eye on. Wait maybe a week after you've added her.Then after a week is up, Chat her up and say "Hey i never knew i had a "Emily zaldo as a friend"It's really important to wait at least a week. Because if you chat her up like 3 days later and say that, her reply will most likely be "You added me 3 days ago retard.." Good luck to every player out there. And i hope this tip helped someone! - Alvin

  
最近我试图寻找在网上吸引女孩子的方法，而且也发现了一些能够帮助到我的点子。作为作者一般会说“你可以效仿这种方法，但是最好找到最适合你的”，而我会说“我没有什么创意”。然后我发现当你实践多了，新的点子自然就会找上门了。通常很多人都会在facebook或空间中加上想聊天的女孩子的，然而却不知道如何找一个漂亮的开场白。我发现有一点很凑效，希望可以帮到你们。首先在社区上加你中意的女孩，等待一周后开始和她聊天，可以这样说：“嘿，我还不知道我有艾米丽这个朋友呢”。这里面的关键是至少等待一个星期的时间。因为如果你只等了三天就和她聊天，那么她的回答可能是“你在三天前加了我……”祝所有的男同胞好运，也希望这一点小技巧可以帮到大家！-阿尔文 

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Active Listening

积极地倾听

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This tip is CRUCIAL, can make or break it with a target, and will keep your mind sharp and alert after a bit of trial and error but does require a lot of active listening. Girls will always drop in little words in their sentences hoping you will pick up on them! this is where the active listening definitely helps and where a girls "anti-slut" defense come into play. And example of this is while out, a friend of mine was on form, tuning this girl working in a cigarette stall and doing very well. She had to get back to work and he noticed she was finishing up in the stall, and said to me, "ok, I've got to ask her out for a drink". He waited until she was on her own away from the stall and approached her asking to go out for a drink sometime. Her reply was, "oh I'm actually kind of seeing someone at the moment". Now honestly, how many of you picked up on the word/s she dropped in there? .."kind of", THAT is part of a girls "anti-slut" defense, yeah she may be seeing a guy, but the "kind of" lets you know shes interested in you but doesn't want to come across as being a slut, and because you picked up on the 'kind of' shes still fair game so keep working your magic. It takes a bit of practice to pick up on these, but once you do, you cant help but pick up on these subtle hints every time. - Shaymis 

   

这一点尤其重要，成败可以说就在此一举。积极地倾听可以让你挫败之后保持思维敏捷和警惕。女孩子们说话经常故意遗漏一些词不说，留给你去意会，这个时候是她们的反荡妇机制发挥作用的时候，也是测试你是否听懂言外之意的时候。下面讲一个我朋友的例子。我朋友看上一个在香烟摊工作的女孩。他觉察到她要收工了，就对我说：“我要邀请她出去喝一杯“。等到她走在路上的时候，他过去问她是否愿意找时间出去喝一杯。她的回答是，”我不像要去约会的吗？“。这句话有多少人能听出其中的深意呢？女孩子用上了反荡妇防卫机制，简单的说就是不想让自己看起来那么容易到手。也有可能她真的要去约会，不过这种含蓄的答法说明她可能对你更感兴趣，只是不想显得自己太随便而已。如果你能够读懂这层意思的话，那么还可以继续展示你的魅力。需要一些时间去领悟这些含义，不过一旦你做到了，那么你就战无不胜。-Shaymisundefined

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Don't believe what they say 

不要相信她们口头上说的

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Never take what a woman says at face value! I’m not saying that women intentionally lie all of the time, but you must learn that a woman’s desires and actions are never consistent with what they say. Women act based on their emotions, not their logic. Therefore, even if a woman believes something to be true, that’s not always the case. For example, girls will say all the time that they aren’t attracted to short guys and end up dating a midget. It’s because that midget had confidence and didn’t care what she said, because it has no effect on his game. Never let anything a woman says (besides obvious rejection) deter your game or confidence. Keep on with your game, and you will surprise yourself when you find out how little women know about their own desires! - GoinPhoenix    

永远不要拿女孩子说的话太当真！我并不是说女孩子们一直都在蓄意说谎，而是她们常常心口不一，毕竟她们是感性动物。所以，即使有个女孩子承认某事是对的，也并不一定是这么回事。举例来说，很多女孩子都会说她们不喜欢个子矮的男孩子，而与此同时却和一个小个子交往过。这是因为那个小个子很自信，并不相信女孩子的这种借口。所以说，永远不要因为任何这类表面的理由（除非是很明显的拒绝）而有所胆怯，要保持自信。最后你会惊讶的发现女孩子对她们真正想要什么知之甚少。-菲尼可斯 

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Not In Agreement 

不要一味的肯定

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One of the biggest things AFC's do that women (and non-AFC men) can really pick up on is agreeing for the sake of agreeing. Have your own opinions, and if you see that just so happen to genuinely agree with 5 things in a row, don't let it be known that you agree on those 5 things. It'll make you seem needy as shit. AFC's don't just do this to girls, they do it to alpha males, or anyone who they value more than themselves or anyone they think is cool. You might as well kill yourself if you have nothing to bring to the table, no one wants someone with no input. - Papi Stick

   
（AFC，Average Frustrated Chump，泡学专业术语，指由于不讨女人喜欢、异性魅力比较低的男人。与AFC对应的是PUA，Pick-up Artist，即恋爱高手。） AFC 和非AFC 都同意 的一件事是肯定是具有风险的。如果你正好确实是同意女方一次性说的5件事，也最好不要表现出来。那样会让你显得很傻帽。AFC们不仅这样子对待女孩子，面对大男子主义的同性、他们觉得很酷以及比自己强的人也会这样。如果你没什么拿得到台面上的见解的话那将会是很不幸的，因为没有人喜欢这种毫无贡献的谈话。-Papi Stick 

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Me too 

说“我也是”，增加亲切感

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Picked this up from DD. Going to develop what Papi said. Of course its AFC to just keep agreeing with a chick. You have to tease her about stuff she likes and create tension which leads to attraction. But your goal is to create a rapport. You do this by saying stuff like me too. Not necessarily agreeing but providing a connection instead. You should be saying me too as much as you can, you just shouldn't make a big deal out of it every single time. You should say things like me too, but make it casual and move the conversation along. - Wood   

从楼上Papi的言论我们可以知道不能像AFC那样一味的屈从与点头，这样做是为了吸引她的注意。不过你的最终目的是为了创造一种亲切感。所以你可以多说“我也是”这类语句。这样说并不一定代表你总是在肯定，而是为了创造共通点，制造联系。你可以尽量多的这样说，不过并不是每次都需要进行扩展。尽量说得随意，让交谈继续下去。 

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Strange Behavior 

如何处理她异样的行为

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Whenever a girl is acting strangely, I always comment on it to her. Because trying to figure out the reasoning behind it is like shaking a box and trying to guess what's inside.. It's a guessing game. The only real way to know is to actually OPEN the box. Sometimes the girl isn't even aware of her own behavior, and pointing it out to her will give her some needed self-reflection. Other times, the girl has something in her mind that she's upset with you about, something that you did, or didn't, do.. maybe something that she heard, or suspects. It could even be something as random as her being reminded of an ex-boyfriend by something you said. And instead of talking about it with you, she'll instead act out her emotions in a bitchy/tantrum sort of way and expect you to figure things out and correct your own behavior. Guys tackle problems logically.. we look for a solution from point A to point B. Girls deal with problems emotionally.. their emotions drive their actions, and the only "logic" that matters to the girl is behaving in conjunction with how she feels. So yeah, if it were me, I'd go straight to the source, (her), and find out what's up. Otherwise you may never know. But only when the timing is right. - Player87 

  
当一个女孩举止表现得怪异时，我经常都会对此说一两句。因为试图去说出其中的原因就像是摇一个盒子以试图猜出盒子里装的东西。这有点像猜谜游戏。唯一得到答案的方法就是打开这个盒子。有时候女孩子并没有意识到她自己行为迥异，当你指出来的时候会让她进行必要的自我审视。有些时候女孩子正对你所做、所说的的或者是听到的一些有关你的流言感到不安，也有可能你无意中提到的什么让她想起了前男友。这些她都不会跟你谈及，不过会通过情绪透露出来，这个时候她会希望你能够察觉出来并改正。男人是通过逻辑来思考问题，他们会通过推理来解决问题。而女人则感情用事，她们唯一遵循的逻辑就是心理怎么想的就怎么表现出来。所以呢，我会直接去询问她的异样，并找到原因，否则考自己推理是不知道因果所以然的。 

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Watch your eyes

注意你的视线

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One of the biggest indicators of status in a conversation is where the participants are looking. We all know that gazing down while speaking implies inferiority, and that looking straight into the other person's eyes shows confidence. But what should you do when not talking? By looking at the speaker you show complete attention, but by looking away you show some slight detachment. So by looking at your target while talking and away when listening you show that you're confident, while making her work to hold your attention. Don't make it too extreme (ie staring at other women) but give this a try sometime. - by Goldi   

在谈话的过程中，你的眼睛看向哪里会暴露你的整个状态。众所周知，说话的时候向下看意味着自卑，直视则说明很自信。那么没有说话的时候又应该看哪里呢？看着说话的对象可以表明你很用心的在听，如果看向其他的地方则说明你有些分心。所以一方面在说话的时候要看着对方的眼睛，表示你很自信，而另一方面在倾听的时候要远离她的眼睛，这样可以激发她去吸引你的注意力。不过也不要做得太过（比如看其他的女孩子），不过也可以试试。-Goldi 

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Slow down, fella

小伙子，慢点说

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When approaching, many guys get caught up in the moment and begin to speak way too fast, especially when they're just starting off. The adrenaline just gets to them and they lose control of their speech. When you talk fast, not only is it harder for women to understand, but also naturally heightens the pitch of your voice, and makes you seem extremely nervous. Take the time to relax and slow down your speech, give her time to enjoy your presence. - by Moose   

很多家伙一接近女孩子说话就会变快，这时候他们的肾上腺素上升，他们已经对讲话失去控制。如果你说话太快，不仅仅会影响对方对你的理解，同时提高的音量也暴露出你很紧张，这两样都是不好的。所以，要给一些时间让自己放松，慢点说话，同时也是给她多一些时间去理解你。 

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The art of listening 

倾听的艺术

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How would you like to be better with conversations and have friends and girls enjoy talking with you more? How many times does someone tell you their name and a second later you forget it? How many times does someone tell you something then shortly after they have to tell you the same thing? Well you've heard it time and time again: Listen! You may think you are listening to them and holding on a good conversation but odds are you really aren't processing what the person is saying unless you ACTIVELY LISTEN AND PROCESS what they are saying. It is so rare that people do this that when you actually do it, it makes a difference and people can tell. 99.9% of the time we are thinking about what WE are going to say, rather than what the other person is saying. One of the biggest things I've learned that has led to my success socially is that people love talking about things they are passionate about or have a view on. This could be a favorite sports team, a hobby, a current event, or any number of things. After enough practice actively listening you will be able to easily identify topics that you should cherry-pick and will be able to easily thread conversations. Even the shyest person opens up when they are talking about something they enjoy. From then on, YOU'RE IN! Whether you actively listen when talking to friends, girls, or new people you meet, people will enjoy talking to you and having someone actually listen and be interested in what they are saying. - Wispy   

扪心自问，你有多么想变得更加善于交谈和期待你的朋友和女孩子们愿意同你交谈？而又有多少次别人告诉了你名字后转身你就忘记了？有多少次别人要不断重复地告诉你同一件事？你应该也听过很多次这种劝告了：要倾听！你可能认为你在听而交谈也很顺利，不过你要知道如果你没有认真积极的倾听和消化她们说的话，那你是不能够很好的做出回应的。很遗憾的是很少有人能做到。当你真正这样做的时候，你就会看到效果很不一样。在谈话中几乎99.9的时间我们都将注意力集中在我们要说什么，而不是他人在说什么。其实从我成功的经验来看，人们都是喜欢谈论自己的兴趣所在和有话可说的地方，这可以是一场喜欢的运动赛事、一个爱好和当前热点等。当你倾听够多的时候，你就会可以优先选择要谈的话题，从而让交谈很顺利。哪怕是再羞涩的人碰到自己感兴趣的话题时也会有得谈。从现在开始加入进来吧，当和朋友、女孩或刚认识的人聊天时都积极的倾听，人们是很乐意同积极倾听自己以及对自己感兴趣的人聊天的。-Wispy 

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Be creative 

要有创意

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Imagination is more important than Knowledge. Think outside the box. Think beyond just giving a line to a girl and hoping that will get you in. Women love it when a guys uses and displays creativity and imagination to talk to them. Dare to be different and dare to try new approaches and styles. In the end it will only enhance you and if you are rejected, at least you will stand out in her mind and who knows where that will take you in the future. - Player87 

创新比知识重要得多。不要受条条框框的束缚。富有创意的思维会让女孩子记住你，进而接受你。当你说话的时候表现得很有创造性和想象力的时候，女孩子都会很喜欢，所以要敢于表现得不同，尝试新鲜的风格。这样做的结果就是加深在女孩心中的印象，即使你最后被拒绝了，但是说不定哪天她就会想起你并接受你。-Player87 

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What's in a Name?

姓名里有玄机

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Whenever you greet anyone that you know, always say their name. People love hearing it, especially women. This instantly builds rapport if you use someone's name when you speak to them. If you have trouble remembering names, try this tip out: When you first meet someone, say their name at least 3 times within the first 5 minutes of meeting them. Extra Credit: If you have used a unique nickname they enjoy, then it triples the effect. - Moose 

  
不管何时当你问候别人的时候，说出对方的名字是很重要的。人们很喜欢这一点，尤其是女人。这样做可以立即建立亲密关系。如果你很不幸地忘记了她们的名字，可以在交谈前5分钟的时间内多提到几次名字。如果你使用了一个她们喜欢的独一无二的昵称，那就更加锦上添花了。-Moose 

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Opening properly

好的开场白意味着成功了一大半

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There are 3 questions that 90% of the guys use when trying to open women: "You are so beautiful!" or some variation of this... "Do you have a boyfriend?" or some variation of this... "Can I take you out some time?" or some variation of this. You know what? All these guys all think they have been imaginative. That they used a real tight opener. I suggest NOT using anything like these unless you are going to make fun of the line as part of the opener. For example: Sometimes I'll start with, "You are so beautiful! Now be honest with me; how many times have you heard that lame line?" You can run a whole bad pickup line routine that's fun for the girls. They will want to add their 2 cents. Just make sure to cut the tread and move it quickly to more fertile ground when it passes it's peak. - Player87 

90%的家伙都会这样和女孩子搭讪：“你真漂亮！”或者是“你有男朋友吗？”抑或是“我能约你出去吗？”等等这类的话语。你知道不，这些家伙还以为自己很有创意。其实他们使用了一种很直接的方式，我并不建议这样做，除非你打算把这类话语作为打趣的一部分。例如，很多时候我会这么说：“你真漂亮！不过说实话，这样蹩脚的赞词你听了多少次了？”这样打趣的方式会让女孩子为你加分。不过要确保把握时机顺利将话题转移到其他更擅长的地方。-Player87 

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For better or worse

孤注一掷 

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This ice breaker is so effective that it can work on just about any type of girl, it's pure gold. Try this : The next time you see a really hot babe that you have never met before say this simple phrase... "Will you marry me?" :) I know it sounds crazy, but if you say it with a smile on your face they will almost always think that you are joking... and in turn they will also be very flattered and think that you are cute and have a good sense on humor. Most girls have waited their entire lives to hear a man say those words to them, and by doing so (even though you are joking) you will be giving them a huge ego boost and they are sure to have a great day afterwards... and be thinking about you and what you said the entire time. After using this line make sure to try to continue the conversation and end up getting her number or setting up a date!  

面对任何女孩这一招都可以打破僵局，绝对是货真价实的。试试这样做吧：下次你碰到辣妹的时候，微笑地问一句“愿意嫁给我吗？”我知道这听起来很疯狂，然而当你面带微笑的时候，她们会认为你是在开玩笑，不过尽管如此，她们还是会很开心，而且认为你很可爱和幽默。大部分女孩穷其一生都是在等待有人对她们说这几个字，即使你是在开玩笑的，她们也会心花怒放，而且之后心情都会很好，并且也因此将你记在心上。有这么好的一个开始后，你们大可以继续交谈，拿到电话号码或者约个会都是有可能的了。 

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Fresh and new

想一些新鲜的点子 

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When you are having that initial conversation with a new girl always try to keep the topics interesting by asking her questions that she is not used to getting from guys that hit on her and may have never even been asked before. By all means you should try to avoid asking her the typical questions like "Where do you live?", "Where do you go to school or work?" or "What do you do for fun?"... these will always lead to boring conversations resulting in her thinking you are boring as well. Come up with some good unique questions to ask that will keep her on her toes and interested, a good way to do this is to think of a bunch of them while you are at home and write them down, then try to memorize some of them before you go out. Try this a few times and experiment with different questions, you will find that some work better than others but almost all of them are much more effective than those "normal" questions that I described earlier. 

  
当你首次和一个陌生的女孩子交流的时候，尽量问一些新鲜有趣的问题，要保证这些问题她以前没有听过。尽量不要问一些一般性的问题比如“你住哪里？”“在哪里工作和上学”或“你都玩些什么”之类的。这样很容易让她觉得你很无趣。所以你要准备一些可以提起她们兴趣的问题。一种好的方法就是平时在家的时候多想一些新奇的点子，然后记下来。等机会来的时候就付诸实践。你会发现这样很管用，至少比之前说的那些问题有效得多。 

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Bragging gets you nowhere 

吹嘘会让你一无所获 

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I've noticed that many men like to brag about themselves in an attempt to impress women, they think that if they tell a girl about what they own or what they have done it will increase their chances of picking her up. This kind of strategy is probably the worst way to seduce girls in my opinion, and from my personal experiences in life I've found that the people that do the most talking about themselves are always the most insecure of us all. Men that feel the need to prove themselves to women through words are generally the type of guys that always have a ton of detailed stories to tell about how they bang tons of babes... but you never seem to actually SEE them with one. This is because they never really do get any girls, but because of the fact that they know that you have never seen them with any girls... they feel the need to prove themselves to you as well by making up tall tales. Men that like to brag don't get girls because girls are just not attracted to qualities in men that we TELL them that we have, they are attracted to the qualities in men that we SHOW them we have. We've all heard the old saying "Actions speak louder than words" and this is definitely one of the situations in which it applies. The moral of this tip is obvious : Never brag or try to make yourself seem better by talking about yourself to girls, instead show them that you are an attractive guy by letting what you do and who you are speak for you. 

  
我发现很多男的为了吸引女孩子会使劲吹嘘自己，因为他们相信向女孩子展示过去的成就会增加好感。在我看来，在吸引女孩子上这是不明智的。从我的个人经历看来，总是谈论自己是不行的。那些试图通过语言来证明自己的家伙普遍是想说他们把过多少个辣妹，而事实上别人却一个也没看到，当然他们正是知道你看不到才会说的。他们感觉到证明自己的必要而选择说大话。而这种方法没办法吸引女孩子是因为女孩子不会因为你说什么就相信什么，而是看你的表现。不是有这么句谚语吗，“事实胜于雄辩”，在这里也同样适用。这一条是很明显的：不要吹嘘自己，或者仅仅通过自我评价来展示你的吸引力，而应该让事实和你自身的气质来说话。 

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Here, let me give you my card :) 

好吧，让你来看看我的杀手锏 

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Greatest Ice breaker! Get business cards made that have "Smile if you want to sleep with me" printed on them as large as possible. Then approach a woman in a bar or club and hand her one of the cards without saying a word. Nine out of ten women won't be able to hold back a smile, and this creates the perfect opportunity to start a conversation... because the ice has already been broken.

   
印刷一些名片，名片上面尽可能大的印上字样“想和我睡觉吗？微笑吧！”，这些名片有破冰的效果。然后在酒吧或俱乐部，将名片递给你合意的姑娘。10个中会有9个女孩会忍不住笑起来，这样你的机会就来喽。 

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Watch and learn 

边看边学 

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The best thing to say to a girl you've never met before is something based on observation... look at her clothes, bags and other stuff you can see to get an idea of something she likes then ask her a question about it, after she gives you an answer proceed to introduce yourself. I always try to "learn" as much as possible about a girl before I approach them... it can really suck if you just go in there blind and try to use a "general" line that you can use on any girl, because every girl is different :) Some people may think that it is "creepy" to do research and learn about a woman before you talk to her, but those people are always the ones who wonder why they fail 90% of the time when they try to talk to women, simply because they try to talk to her about something she is not interested in. By "research" I mean observing her for 10-20 second before approaching... not stalking her :) 

  
和一个不认识的人交谈的最好方法是根据观察来说话。从她的衣服、包包以及其他目所能及的方面来了解她的喜好，并就这个喜好来问问题。等她回答了之后，你就可以进行自我介绍了。当我接近一个女孩的时候，我总是尽我所能的去了解情况。如果你总是用一个套路去见所有女孩，那是很不明智的，因为每个女孩子都是不同的，必须针对性地去做一些准备。很多人会觉得这样很麻烦，不过这也是他们90%的几率都会失败的原因，因为不经过一定的调查的话，很有可能你说的话就是女孩子不感兴趣的地方。这里的调查只是指花10-20秒进行观察，而不是指跟踪之类的。 

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Ok, your new name is... 

给对方取一些新的称呼 

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When you call a girl up for the first time give her a "nikename" immediately and use it when she picks up, it doesn't have to be a unique nickname just something that only YOU call her, like you can say "Hey sugar" or "What's goin on beautiful". Always do this with new girls because once they get used to you saying it they will get attached to you faster. If you want to get her talking a lot and make your phone conversation last long you can first start off talking to her by using the above nickname tactic to build rapport, then proceed to something like "I was listening to the radio a little while ago and heard this song that goes like (recite the words of the chorus) and I cant figure out who it was, do you listen to (insert what type of music you think she might like)?" then she will say yes and maybe tell you who the singer is but that don't matter... disregard what she says and proceed to ask her who her favorite artists are and she will go off yapping... then listen to anything else she might say that can branch you off into another topic. 

  
当你第一次称呼女孩子的时候就立刻给她取一个昵称，然后一直这样叫知道她接受和认可。并不需要是个很独特的昵称，只是你对她独一无二的一种称呼，比如说你可以叫她“糖糖”或者是“小可人”等。经常这样做是有必要的，一旦她们熟悉了这种称呼，她们就会更快的对你有感觉。如果你想和她有更多的交流或者让电话持续更久，可以首先用昵称增进亲切感，然后你可以说，“我刚收音机的时候听到某某歌手的一首歌，是这样唱的（说几句歌里的歌词），你会听这一类的歌（找一些你认为她会喜欢的类型）吗？”然后她可能会说是的，或许会进一步告诉你她喜欢什么歌手，不过她说什么并不重要，重要的是你们开始了交谈，有了话题，你可以在此基础上继续引伸下去，根据她的话继续展开到其他的话题上去。 

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Talking about "the nasty" 

谈谈性说说爱 

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Talking about sex with a girl is one of the easy-access "doorways" that you can use to get to the point of actually doing it. Here is a sure-fire way to get her talking about sex : Start talking about something the is not related to YOU and HER having sex (because that could scare her off)... but IS related to sex in general, like you could tell her that someone you know had a girls gone wild dvd and you thought it was funny, then ask her if she would even let someone film her doing that sort of thing... then just take it from there. Once you are talking about sex, if at any time she touches you in any way that means your making progress... because girls NEVER touch guys that they are not sexually attracted to. 

  
单刀直入的和女孩子谈性，可以直接告诉她你想做什么。有一个很安全的方式来谈：不要一开始就说想和她做爱（这样会把她吓跑），而是谈一些做爱相关的东西，比如说你可以跟她谈你的朋友，他的女朋友会将做爱的过程拍摄下来。你觉得这很有趣，然后问她是否也会做类似的事情，然后再继续谈下去。当你开始谈性的时候，一旦她和你发生身体接触就意味着你有进展了，因为女孩子不会去接触对她们没有性吸引的人。 

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Really, how bad could it be? 

说什么当真有那么重要吗？ 

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Don't worry too much about WHAT you say when having a conversation with a girl. HOW you say it, and your body language are much more important. Most guys are scared that a girl will laugh at them if they say the wrong thing... but that is simply a myth promoted by fear. I've never once heard of that happening to anyone besides in the movies. It's just not an issue in real life, so stop stressing over it and realize that almost any girl that you talk to will be happy and excited if you just be real with them... don't try too hard to be Cassanova or Don Juan, just be you.

   
当和女孩子交流的时候，不要太在乎具体说什么，你说话的方式、肢体语言才是最重要的。大多数男孩子会担心如果说错话的话会被女孩嘲笑，其实这是一个多余的担心。除了在电影里发生过这种事外，现实中我还没见过。在现实生活中，这并不是一个问题，所以在说什么话上不要给太大的压力自己。只要你表现真诚和实在，大多数女孩都会乐意和你说话的。不要想着变成卡萨诺瓦式人物（意大利浪荡公子）或唐璜（西班牙情圣的代名词，和中国的楚留香类似），做你自己就可以了。 

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Loud mouth bastards 

不要大声说猥琐的话语 

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Don't ever be that loud mouth bastard that's screaming "Let me see some titties!" at the top of his lungs... or hanging out of the passenger window like "Woooo, girl you got a fatty!". These are the type of guys that girls find funny and entertaining... but funny and entertaining does NOT make it to the bedroom. Don't smack girls on the ass in public, or grope them in any way the could embarass them... because once you make them feel uncomfortable around you in PUBLIC, how are they ever going to be comfortable around you ALONE? Think about it.  

不要大声的尖叫或者很色的说“让我看看你的乳房”或靠着窗口对着女孩说“小妞，身材不错嘛”。这种类型只会让女孩娱乐一下，却不足以让她同你上床。还有就是不要在公共场合调戏女孩子，或者做一些让她难堪的事情。她在公共场合都不自在，怎么能指望她单独和你一起的时候感觉舒服呢？ 

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Something to calm those nerves 

学着平息紧张的神经 

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If you seem to be very laid back and "smooth" around women that you are not attracted to... but nervous as hell around hot women, try this strategy to help calm those nerves. First remember that you are a confident, suave player... and you can have any woman that you persue. Next look at the particular female from a critic's perspective... instead of focusing your attention on her good traits (and she may have many), focus your attention on her bad traits (and she may have little, but it does not matter). This works because you are now looking at this girl the same way that you look at the ones that you aren't attracted to, which is exactly what you needed to cure that nervousness!

   
如果你面对你不感兴趣的女孩子很自在，而面对自己喜欢的女孩子就很紧张的话，你可以试试这招。首先要告诉自己你是一个自信潇洒的人，你可以追求到任何女孩子。然后用一个批评家的眼光来看待那个女孩，注意力放在她的缺点（缺点很小，但是没关系），而不是众多的优点上。这样就有助于你将这个女孩看成和其他女孩子一样，然后自然地就不紧张了。 

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You've gotta keep your head up 

你得保持昂扬的斗志 

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If something doesn't go your way, for example if you get rejected by a girl that you really had your eye on for a while... don't EVER let it get you down. That will only make a bad thing worse, and some guys never recover from something like that. Always remember, you are a player, and players don't ever walk around with their heads down. We take the loss, suck it up and move on to the next girl... because there's more fish in the sea than any one man can catch, and with enough skill and practice your bound to catch a big one. So be patient my players, your time will come if it hasn't already. Remember... we all have our bad days.   

如果事情并不如你想的那般顺利，比如当你被一个中意的女孩子拒绝时，不要因此而弃馁。气馁只会让事情更糟糕，可偏偏有一些人很难恢复过来。要时刻记住玩家的身份，不要因为她们的拒绝而停滞不前。我们要吸取失败的经验，然后找下一个对象，这个世界好女孩就想大海里可捕捞的鱼一样多，只要你有能力，而且不断实践，你就会捕捞到一条大鱼。所以一定要有耐心，那些不好的日子都已经过去了，成功就在不远处。 

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Use this line! Use this line! 

试试这样开场 

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Here is a good opener you can use: Find a woman that you are interested in and when you approach her say "I bet you have a beautiful smile", then smile and wait for her reaction. 99% of the time she will smile back, and when she does say "I knew it" and proceed to start a conversation with her. If she does not offer a reciprocal smile, simply say "I guess not" and walk away.

   
有一个很好的开场白你可以借鉴：接近你感兴趣的女孩，然后说“我想你笑起来肯定很好看”，然后微笑着等待她的反应。99%的时候她会回你一个微笑，然后说“我知道”，这样就可以继续和她交谈。如果她并没有回一个微笑，你就可以说“我想我猜错了”，然后走开。 

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You've got nothing to lose 

你没有什么可失去的 

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The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared or rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place! 

被拒绝次数最多的那个总是最有经验和收获最多的！不要怕被拒绝，有想法就要去做。当你开始考虑“我是否应该和她聊天的时候”，你要远离这种想法。这个时候你可以这样想，如果你和她搭讪的话，你成功和失败的机会都是50%，然而如果你不去的话，你成功的机会是0%，失败的机会就是100%。只要你不主动开始交谈，你就永远没有机会。 

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Two birds with one stone 

一石二鸟之法 

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Ever get a woman's number, and when she gave it to you it seemed like she was really into you and that everything would go according to plan, but when you call her she makes up an excuse why she does not want to come out on a date? This is because of the fact that out of sight is out of mind. For instance, when a good salesman is trying to sell you something, he will do almost anything to make the sale before you leave, because if you walk out the door he knows that he will never see you again. This works the same way, you must always get her number AND set up a date when you first meet her, in other words... you must "close the sale". So from now on, replace the phrase "Can I get your number?" with "I'd like to take you out sometime, how about Saturday night?" and when she says ok, say "Cool, is there a number I can reach you at?". Trust me, it works like a rubber glock... anywhere, anytime, and every time :)  

有时候你顺利拿到了一个女孩子的电话号码，而且看起来她对你也有兴趣。当你以为这一切都很顺利而打电话约她出去的时候，却被她用一些借口回绝。这时候你是否觉得很纳闷呢？其实原因很简单，离开视线后心也随着离开了。这就好比一个好的销售员一定是会在你离开店铺之前尽一切努力进行销售，而不能指望你出了店门之后再回头买东西，因为一旦出了店门客户的心就走了。同样，你也必须在拿到电话号码的同时就约定下次见面，否则结果就不好说了。所以从现在开始，不要只是问“我能记一下你的电话号码吗？”，而应该说“我想邀请一起出去玩，星期六的晚上怎么样？”，当她同意了后，你可以说“太棒了，到时候怎么和你联系？”相信我，这样做在任何时候都管用。 

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Those girls just love anticipation 

女孩子较喜欢期待和憧憬 

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When you are going to ask a girl out, try this unique trick that will make it much easier for you to do, and the girl much more interested in you: Tell her you are going to ask her out before you actually do. For instance, say something like "I'm going to ask you out, but not right now... I'm not in the mood". The anticipation will drive her nuts, because she has no idea when you are going to ask her out. You will be on her mind 24/7 until you eventually do ask her out, which you should do when she least expects it. You will get a yes almost every time with this technique!   

当你准备约一个女孩子出去的时候，试试玩一点小花样来激起女孩子的兴趣：在你实际约她出去之前调一下她的胃口。比如这样，“我想约你出去的，不过现在不太合适，我心理还没准备好。”这样她就不知道你具体什么时候约她，很自然的激起她的期待。这样在你最终约她之前，她会将你一个星期24小时放在心上，不过你要在她兴致消失前约她。这样一点小花样会增加你约会的成功率。 

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Did anyone say open ended? 

你会问一些开放的问题吗？ 

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The opening line that you say to a woman when you first make your approach is extremely important, and by now you should know that pick up lines are no good. Try these opening lines that are very effective: "Why are you in such a good mood?" or "Why do you look so down?". Use the proper one based on your observations, and you will be very happy with the results. These lines will usually get her talking, because they demand more than a simple yes or no.  

当你第一次约会的时候开场白是十分重要的，你也应该知道让女孩子主动是不好的。你可以试试这些开场白，很有效的，例如“你心情看起来很好哦，有什么好玩的共享哈”，或者这样“你看起来有点失落，怎么回事？”用哪一种合适取决于你对别人的观察，这样是很受用的。这样的开场白可以让她有话可讲，而不是单单只能表示赞同或否定。 

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You can read this... but can you read those? 

你有阅读文字的能力，不过阅读声音的能力有没有呢 

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Ever have problems talking to girls in nightclubs just because of the simple fact that you can't hear them very well? If so, I've got a simple method to get around this, and that is to improve your lip reading skills. It sounds harder than it actually is, all you need to do is watch some tv! Next time you are watching some tv shows (familiar shows like Friends or Sienfeld seem to work well) put your tv on mute and try to fingure out what they are talking about. If you do this one time each week for 1-2 hours you will be able to read lips extremely well, this skill requires minimal practice to learn!

你曾经有过这样的经历吗？就是因为酒吧的环境太吵而没有办法同女孩子搭讪。我有一个简单的方法可以帮到你，就是学习一点简单的阅读唇语的能力。听起来很难，其实不然，你所需要做的就是看一些电视剧。下次当你看电视剧的时候（一些家庭电视剧，如六人行就很好），设置电视剧为静音状态，然后尝试着去辨别他们所说的话。如果你每周花上1-2个小时训练上一次的话，你就能够读唇语了，不信你可以下次去酒吧试哈。