献给母亲的歌词:女性做爱时通常会犯的错误

1.从来不主动要求做爱

This is probably the most common mistake women make. Don’t rely on your partner to get things started every time. “When you initiate sex, it shows him that sex with him is a priority in your relationship,” says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. “It also shows him that you relish sex for sex’s sake.” Men find this show of power sexy, and they get totally turned on by the simple fact that you want them sexually.

这可能是女性们最会犯的错误了。不要每次都让你的伴侣提这个要求。“如果是你提出来，可以表明与他做爱是一件很重要的事，”Lou Paget说，他是每天都性趣昂然的作者。“这也同样告诉他你很享受与他做爱。”如果是女性提出来要做爱，男人们通常会觉得在性方面自己很有能力给伴侣带来快乐。

2. Being unresponsive in bed

2.在床上没有互动性

Let your partner know that you’re having a great time. “Most important, let yourself go during sex,” says Sari Locker, author of Mindblowing Sex in the Real World.

要让你的伴侣知道你是在享受。“最重要的是在做爱时候要放松，”Sari Locker说，她是生活中做爱的秘诀一书的作者。

Watching and hearing you get turned on makes him turned on, so go ahead and let it show. “Don’t be afraid of what sounds and words might come out of your mouth. It’s only natural and quite normal to express yourself when something feels so amazing,” adds Locker.

你的伴侣看到你很享受的样子，听到你的呻吟声，他们也觉得很有动力。“不要害怕发出声音或说一些你想说的话。当你感觉很棒时，这是很自然的表达方式，”Locker说。

3. Forgetting his nipples

3.忘记他的乳头

The nipples hold a concentration of nerve endings and are usually regarded as more erogenous in females. Which is why many women overlook men’s nipples as an erogenous zone. But nipples can be his thing, too.

乳头里有很多神经终端并使人有性愉悦，往往会觉得这是女性所有的特征。女性们不会想到其实男性也是一样。

“Many men have very sensitive nipples. Regardless of how sensitive they are, some men enjoy having them stimulated,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of Touch Me There! Try sucking gently on the nipples, using your tongue to increase stimulation, and alternate kissing and licking the areola.

“有些男性有很敏感的乳头。不说到底有多少敏感，有些男性喜欢女性抚摸他们的乳头，Yvonne K. Fulbright说，他是请抚摸我这里一书的作者。温柔的吸吮乳头，用你的舌头慢慢的激起他的欲望，然后再与他亲吻，再添他的乳晕。

4. Making him responsible for your orgasms

4.你是否能有高潮是男性应该做的事

“It is important for women to know that they are in charge of their own orgasm,” explains Barry R. Komisaruk, co-author of The Science of Orgasm. Because ultimately, you’re responsible for your own pleasure and satisfaction.

”其实女性应该知道是她们自己决定能否有高潮，”Barry R. Komisaruk说，他是探秘性高潮一书的合著者。女性自己的主动性决定她们是否有高潮。

Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader, start focusing on communication: Give him feedback, tell him what turns you on and how you like to be touched. If you’re uncomfortable talking about it, you can guide his hand with yours.

不要奢望你的伴侣能看懂你的心，必要的交流是很重要的：告诉他你所感受到的，怎样你才会被挑起性欲，你喜欢怎样的抚摸。如果你不好意思说出来，你可以用手把他的手带到你想要的位置。

5. Limiting sex to the bedroom

5.只在卧室里做爱

Why restrict your lovemaking session to the bed or the bedroom? Surprise him with sex in an unexpected place.

为什么只在床上或卧室里做爱呢？找一个意想不到的地方，让他有意外的惊喜。

“Men love the combination of two things: A sense of adventure, and when their women are spontaneously overcome with erotic passion,” says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. So don’t overlook countertops, stairwells or even the balcony. By exploring new, naughty places for a nooky, you’ll be making some very steamy memories of your own.

“有2样东西男人都喜欢：冒险的感觉，他的女性伴侣有很强的性欲望，”Lou Paget说。不要忘记厨房台面，楼梯井以及阳台这些地方。发现一些有趣的，新奇的地方去做爱，将让你留下深刻的回忆。