灰姑娘公主视频故事:7种促进夫妻关系的方法

当你们正打算为2012立新年志愿时，不要忘记了你们的关系改善。一起制定计划可以很大程度上改善你们在新的一年的关系。

Below, Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, offers seven resolutions to help improve your relationship.

接下来，《5个简单步骤让你们的婚姻更加美好》的作者苔莉.欧布奇提供了7种方法可以帮助改善你们之间的关系。

Even if you don’t adopt these goals, take some time to consider your relationship priorities and values and figure out what goals you’d like to set as a couple.

即使你们不采纳这些计划，请花一点时间思考下你们的关系优先与价值，琢磨一下你们作为一对夫妻，愿意设置什么计划。

1. Every day spend 10 minutes chatting with your partner. 

 

Days can fly by without couples having any meaningful conversation. Orbuch suggested “talking to your partner about anything under the sun, except kids, work, household responsibilities, or your relationship.” The goal is to get to know each other, she said. Be creative and have fun with your talk, she added.

1. 每天花10分钟和伴侣聊天

夫妻两人可能一个有意义的对话都没说，一天就过去了。欧布奇建议“和伴侣谈论天底下的任何话题，但不是孩子，工作，家庭责任或者你们的关系。”这样做是为了了解对方，她说并补充道，要让你们的话题幽默点，有创意点。

2. Thank your partner daily.

Do you remember the last time you thanked your partner? Expressing gratitude shows your partner that you value them. You can express gratitude by complimenting your partner, such as “You’re so handsome;” “Good morning, gorgeous;” “You’re the best dad/mom,” Orbuch said. Or you can give thanks by taking action. Orbuch suggested everything from making your partner’s favorite dessert to gassing up their car to texting them to sending a thank-you card in the mail.

2. 每天感谢你的伴侣2

你还记得上次感谢你的伴侣是什么时候吗？表达谢意是告诉你的伴侣你很重视它们。欧布奇说，你可以通过赞美你的伴侣来表达谢意，例如“你很绅士；”“早上好，美丽的女神；”“你是个好爸爸/妈妈。”或者你可以通过行动来给予谢意。欧布奇建议可以做你的伴侣最喜欢的甜点，为他们的汽车加油，甚至写封邮件发送致谢卡。

3. Ditch technology during dinner at least once a week.

Tuning into technology, whether it’s your cell phone, computer or MP3 player, means tuning out from your partner. This prevents you from fully focusing on and enjoying each other’s company. As Orbuch explained, “This meal is just for the two of you to focus on each other and ask each other questions about the day, week, or goals for the future.”

3. 每周至少一次在晚餐期间抛开科技产品

不论是你的手机，电脑或者mp3播放器，使用科技产品就意味着抛弃你的伴侣。这会阻碍你专心致志和享受对方的陪伴。正如欧布奇所解释的，“这顿饭是只是为了你们两个能够专注于对方，询问对方一些关于这一天，这一周的一些问题或者未来的计划等。”

4. Sweat or get scared together once a week. 

Arousal-producing activities are known for perking up relationships. According to Orbuch’s research, chemicals linked to fear or exercise are similar to the chemicals that promote sexual arousal. “Rent a scary movie, ride a roller coaster, go to the gym together, or find another activity that causes your adrenaline to surge,” Orbuch said.

4. 每周一起出汗或紧张一次

众所周知，觉醒形成的活动可以振作双方关系。根据欧布奇的研究，由于害怕或者运动所产生的化学物质类似于促进性觉醒的化学物质。她说：“可以一起租个恐怖电影看，玩过山车，去体育馆或者找些其他能使肾上腺激素猛增的活动。”

5. Designate a night when you don’t cook.

If you’re already tired, cooking and cleaning can potentially ruin a romantic evening. So Orbuch suggested keeping it simple by getting takeout. This way you can focus all your attention on each other.

5.指定一个不用下厨的晚上

如果你们已经很累了，下厨和洗碗可能会毁掉一个浪漫的夜晚。所以欧布奇建议带外卖让晚餐制作变得简单些。这样你们可以集中所有精力在对方身上。

6. Try a brand-new activity once a month.

 Doing new activities together helps jolt couples out of a stale routine. Another plus is that it can feel like a first date, Orbuch said. For instance, you might try eating at a new restaurant, visiting a museum you haven’t been to or taking a cooking or dance class, Orbuch said.

6. 每个月尝试一次新鲜活动

一起做一件新活动可以帮助夫妻摆脱一成不变的日程。另一个有利因素是它可以让人感觉像是第一次约会，欧布奇说道。例如你们可以尝试在新开店餐厅吃饭，参观从来没有去过的博物馆，或者参与一次厨艺班或舞蹈班。

7. Take turns planning time together.

“Reciprocity is a great way to strengthen your emotional connection,” Orbuch said. This also helps couples get out of a rut, especially if one partner tends to make all the plans. You can have each partner write down a date idea and swap notes, Orbuch said.

7. 一起轮流安排时间

欧布奇说：“互动是增强你们的感情联系的好途径。”这也可以帮助夫妻们摆脱常规，尤其如果其中一个视图全盘计划时。你们可以让对方写下日程安排的想法然后交换笔记。”欧布奇这么说。