可控硅模块g1k1g2k2:热爱自己，灵魂礼拜

过去我总是与人相处不好，从未明白为什么会这样直到我重新审视我自己。于是我意识到一直想从我的同伴那寻求支持和爱，但这些要从自身发现。曾妄图从他人身上寻找的东西结果只有从我自身发掘。我越明白自我认可的重要，就更加地开始爱自己，无论优点还是瑕疵。

If we don’t have an adequate amount of self love, we’ll likely search for it somewhere outside ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with seeking love from others. Seeking ourselves, or our sense of self-worth in that love, is the problem.

当我们不够热爱自己时，会倾向于从我们周围去寻找爱。从他人处获得爱并没有错，但发现自我，或想从他人的爱中感受自我价值就成了问题。

Love must first come from within. No matter how much others praise, love or admire us, unless we feel that way on the inside, we’ll end up rejecting their love. If we don’t love ourselves, it’s hard for us to imagine how anyone else can love us.

爱首先必须来自自我。无论我们受到多少的赞扬，爱和敬仰，只有我们内心感受到爱才行，否则最终会拒绝他人的爱。若我们连自己都不爱的话，就很难想象其他人又会有都爱我们呢?

How can we cultivate love within us? Just as we show our loved ones regular acts of love, we too need to show ourselves loving actions.

我们怎么才能热爱自己呢？就像我们想爱的人表示寻常的爱的行为，我们最需要的就是想自己表示热爱。

In India, they have a practice called a puja. A puja is a devotion to the gods. It can be an offering of food, incense, flowers, or a prayer, anything that can be interpreted as a sign of love. We can also use a puja or act of devotion, to show ourselves love. Remember, love is a verb.

印度有一种仪式叫做普迦。它是向上帝奉献，在仪式上提供如食物，焚香，鲜花，祷告等任何能认为是爱的标志的东西。我们也可以把普迦或类似奉献的行为看做想自己展示爱。记住，爱要表现出来。

Here are some suggestions for making a puja to yourself:

以下是对你自己做普迦的一些建议

1. Go on a self-date.

1.自我休憩

Spend some time alone with yourself. Don’t think about what you need to do the next day or the cleaning up you need to do around the house. Just be fully in the moment and enjoy yourself.

独自享受时光，不去想明天要做的事，或者要打扫房间。只有完全享受这段时光，放松自己。

Here are a few suggestions:

有些建议：

    Take yourself out to a movie. Be adventurous and pick a movie you wouldn’t normally see. You might be surprised at how much you enjoy the change of pace.

可以自己出去看电影，不妨挑一部你平时不常看的电影。你可能惊奇地发现自己竟很喜欢这一类的。

    Go to lunch at your favorite restaurant, sit and people watch.

去你最喜欢的餐厅吃午餐，只要安静地坐着，看着人群往来。

    Go to a local caf??? and bring a good book with you. Enjoy a cup of chai or tea and just relax.

拿上本耐看的书到咖啡馆坐坐，尽情地品茗杯茶，好好放松。

2. Journal.

2.日记

    Write a gratitude journal entry. List all of the things you’re grateful for in your life. Try going beyond the obvious thing such as your job, your house and your car. Are you grateful for your breath, existence, love, the sun, your mistakes?

列一份你感谢的事情的清单。列上你生活中所感激的事情。试着不要写一些明显的事情如你的工作，房子和车。你感谢过你所呼吸的空气，你的存在，你获得的爱，你享受的阳光，甚至你犯过的错误吗？

    Let go. Take a moment to list all the mistakes you’ve made and forgive yourself for them. What are some of the things others have done to wrong you? List them and forgive them.

开始动手吧。用点时间列出所有你犯过的错误，然后宽恕自己。有没有其他人对你造成过伤害呢？列出来，并原谅他们。

    Achievements and success. What are some of your greatest achievements? What are you most proud of in your life? We have a tendency to focus more on our shortcomings then our success. It’s important that we recognize our achievements and celebrate our success.

成就功绩。你有哪些不寻常的成功？你生活中最骄傲的事是什么？我们总倾向于着重自己的确定而忽视了我们的成功。肯定我们自己获得的成就并好好庆祝，这是很重要的。

3. Do something special for someone else. This may sound opposite to all the other advice here, but we often feel the best about ourselves when we do something selflessly for others.

3。为他人做些特别的事。这听起来好像有点违背刚才提过的意见，但我们总会感觉良好，特别是为他人做些事可不求回报。

4. Go for a drive, blare your music. Simple, yet wonderful.

4.驱车远行，高放音乐。简单却美好。

5. Buy yourself a trinket. Or an ice cream cone, or an ice cream cone trinket. The focus isn’t on spending money, it’s about doing something special for yourself.

5.给自己买些小玩意。甜筒，或小饰物，重点不是花多少钱，而是为自己做点特别的事。

6. Get outside. Go for a long walk or bike ride to a nearby caf??? or just around your neighborhood. This is my personal favorite, it helps me clear my head and gain perspective in my life. I also like to go for presence walks, where the only thing I’m focused on is the present moment. You’ll think you’ve never seen a flower before.

6.出游。在附近散步或骑车，这是我的个人爱好，有助于我保持头脑清醒，思维敏捷。我还喜欢驻足，我关注的只是当下。你会明白自己怎么未注意过路上有花朵。

6. Turn off the lights and light some candles, burn some incense if you’re inclined. Drink a glass of wine, coffee, or tea, read a good book, or watch a good movie. Look at old photographs and reminisce.

6.关灯而且点上蜡烛，如果你喜欢可以点上熏香。喝上一杯酒，咖啡或茶，然后读本好书，或看场精彩的电影，也可以翻翻老照片，回忆过去。

7. Sing to your plants. Just kidding (or am I?)

7.向植物倾诉。开玩笑啦（是吗？）

8. Give yourself the spa treatment. We don’t have to go to the spa to find relaxation; we can create it in our own home. Here are a few examples:

8.享受spa疗程。我们不必去spa馆放松，在家也行。下面有几个可行法案：

    Aroma therapy. Take a ceramic cup and pour some hot water in it. Now put 2-3 drops of essential oil such as peppermint, lavender or jasmine in your water. Put a tower over your head, forget everything and just breathe.

芳香疗程。拿个陶瓷杯，装点热水。现在往水中滴入2-3滴基本的精油比如薄荷油，薰衣草或茉莉香水。在头上方块毛巾，摒弃杂念，静静呼吸。

    Take a mini-vacation. Close your eyes and imagine yourself anywhere you’d like to be in the world. Imagine the most calming relaxing place. Go online and use pictures if it helps you. The point is to bring yourself into a state of relaxation.

  

I hope you enjoy these simple suggestions for making a puja to yourself.

What do you do to show yourself love?

你现在要做什么来爱自己呢？