正雄企业:[转载]美国孩子9岁之前需要掌握的25种基本礼节

[转载]美国孩子9岁之前需要掌握的25种基本礼节

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分类： 育儿心得 原文地址：美国孩子9岁之前需要掌握的25种基本礼节作者：dandan一位美国小学的校长，有一次看到一个10岁的学生在走廊打断两个老师的谈话后，遭到老师的批评，心中很是感慨。他立刻想到这个孩子可能根本不知道，打断别人的谈话是不礼貌的行为，于是他根据自己多年的教育经验总结了下面25条美国孩子需要掌握的基本礼节，希望对父母和孩子都有一个指导作用.

以下摘抄自美国《父母〉杂志 作者：David Lowry,Ph.D

25 Manners Every Kid Needs By Age 9

1. When asking for something, say "Please."
2. When receiving something, say "thank you."
3. Don't interrrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
4. If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase"excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
5. When you have any doubt doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
6. The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative oponions to yourself,or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
7. Don't comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of cuourse, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
8.When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
9. when you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
10. Knock on closed doors-and wait to see if there's a response-before entering.
11. When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
12. Be appreciative and say “thankyou" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
13. Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
14. Don't call people mean names.
15. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
16. Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
17. If you bump into somebody, immediatly say "excuse me."
18. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
19. As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
20. If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, as if you can help. If they say‘yes",do so -you may learn something new.
21. When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
22. When someone helps you, say "thank you". That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
23. Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
24. Keep a napkin on you lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
25. Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.

虽然这些条条框框看起来很琐碎，比如为别人开门，求人帮忙要说请，接受别人帮助要说谢谢，打喷嚏要捂嘴等等，可细想起来却都是我们眼中对欧美人很有礼貌印象的具体体现，看来好习惯不是一天两天养成的，而是从小就开始教育的结果。