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做自己，路在脚下

Written by Eric Hamm on December 6, 2009 

作者：埃里克.哈姆 2009年12月6日

One thing I always notice when reading the words of successful individuals is that they think for themselves.  You can just tell they do things the way THEY think is best, not what they think OTHERS would do or wish them to do.  They are trailblazers because they are first to push away a new path and it is this self-confidence and willingness to think independent of the herd that earns them their respect and often times their success.

　　在阅读成功人士的感言时，我总会注意到这样一件事，他们为自己着想。从中你可以体会到，他们总是用自己认为最好的方式去做事，而不是随波逐流，或以他人的意愿为意愿。他们是开拓者，另辟蹊径第一人，正是这种自认为独立于群体的自信和意愿，为他们赢得尊重，并事半功倍。

We all have our own unique personalities; our own likes, dislikes and general preferences.  Unfortunately many of us end up compromising these preferences for what we believe is a necessary evil.  Yet all too often we find someone else doing what we wanted to do, but didn’t for fear of a failing result.  Our success was stolen by our own twisted idea that our uniqueness was a liability, not an asset.

　　我们的个性、好恶和常规首选项各具特色。不幸的是，我们中很多人相信，自己的选择是罪恶之源，最后作出让步。可我们常发现别人做着想做的事，并不担心失败。独特性是一种倾向，而不是长处，这是窃取了我们成功的扭曲思想。

I don’t know about you, but I’m often afraid of truly speaking my mind for fear of things like disagreement, tainting of my reputation and that awful thing we call r-e-j-e-c-t-i-o-n!  I mean, what if I’m misunderstood?  Or what if I say something that turns out to be inaccurate or maybe just comes across as silly?

　　不知道你会不会这样，我常常害怕说出自己的真实想法，担心遭遇类似反对，声誉受损，和被人们称作拒绝的尴尬事。我是说，如果被人误解怎么办？如果说错了怎么办？或可能被看作傻瓜怎么办？

The problem with these fears is that the alternative is much worse.  Let’s say we are successful, but fake?  Or even worse, unsuccessful AND fake?  Either way we will be miserable.  If we are not being ourselves then who cares if we are accepted?  It’s high school all over again, right?!  You know what I mean, when we tried to be liked by certain people by talking a certain way, walking a certain way and acting a certain way.  Then we look back on those days and think how silly we were and how meaningless it all was with our own uniqueness pushed down by our fears.  This has to stop or we will never know what we’re truly capable of!

　　担心的问题避免了，事情却朝着更糟的方向发展。让我们说，我们成功了，却是假的吗？或者更糟，没有成功而且还是假的？无论哪一种，我们都会很痛苦。如果我们被接受，谁会关心是不是真正的我们吗？重读中学，对吗？你明白我要说什么，就是在说话、走路和行为方式上约束自己，尽力去讨好某些人。回顾那段时光，想想自己是多少愚蠢吧，因担心而压制独特性的做法是多少没有意义。如果不停止这样做，我们将永远不了解自己真正擅长什么！

The Hard Part Is Taking The First Step

万事开头难

I could go on and on about the importance of being ourselves or the detriment of not, but let’s assume we agree at this point.  OK, so now what?  Well, it’s really quite simple.  We need only to listen to our own hearts and minds.  That’s pretty much it.

　　我会坚持不懈地宣传做自己的重要性，或不做自己的危害，假定我们在这一点上达成共识。那么，现在怎么办呢？其实，相当简单。倾听自己。差不多就是这样。

I’m not suggesting we disregard the wisdom around us or go against someone else’s better judgment, but when the only thing standing between being ourselves and being fake is fear of the “what if” we must always push ahead!  The more we do this the easier it will be and the easier it gets the better we’ll be at being ourselves.

　　我不是说，漠视周围的智慧，或对别人切合实际的判断嗤之以鼻，而是，当担心事情的后果是矗立在做自己和伪装自己之间的唯一障碍时，必须跨跃它！这是熟能生巧的事，长此以往，做真正的你，你会越做越得心应手，越做越出色。

What Does It Mean To Be Yourself

做自己意味着什么？

When I think of ‘being yourself’ I picture someone who acts on their intuition, not the latest census.  I see an individual who goes against the grain for no other reason but to appease their unique idea of how it should be done.  I envision a peace of mind that only comes from the knowledge that if they’re going to be rejected or even ignored it will be THEY who are taking the hit, not their pseudo self.

　　当‘做自己’这个问题徘徊在脑际时，我首先勾勒出一个由直觉指导行动的人，他们的行动不以最新调查为依据。我知道，有人背道而驰，不为其它，只为坚持自己应对事情的独到见解。我猜想，内心的宁静来自于这样的认识，如果被拒绝或被忽视，承受打击的他们，而不是伪君子们。

I see so much that I want to be and success that is waiting to be grasped, yet my fears keep me from taking that first step.  I’ve made great strides over the years, but still have a ways to go.  As I continue to break out of my shell and see the benefits of being myself I thought I’d share this struggle with you in hopes that if you’re stuck as a pseudo you, that you’d be inspired to push past this guaranteed mediocrity.

　　我渴求成功，成功等我去把握，担心阻止我跨出第一步。这些年来，我大步前行，但前面的路还很长。我挣脱束缚，努力做自己，并获益非浅，所以与你分享我的拼搏经历，以期陷入伪装自己的你受到激励，不要做明哲保身的平庸之人。