如何学会倾听你自己

“倾听你自己”是一个非常棒的想法，假如你知道如何做到这点的话。但是，假如你没有听到来自于你内心的声音时该怎么办？假如你不知道你的心灵想要告诉你的到底是什么时又该如何？

How to Learn to Listen to Yourself

如何学会倾听你自己

How many times have you heard the advice “Just listen to yourself”?

 I must say, that I’ve heard that advice a lot of times and I have given that advice probably just as much.

“听从你自己内心的呼声”，你曾有多少次听到过这样的建议？

我想说的就是，我们经常会听到这样的建议而我也时常会给读者提供这样的建议。

The idea of “listening to yourself” is really brilliant if you know how to do it. 

But what if you do not hear the voice that tells you what is right for you and what is not?

 What if you don’t know what your inner self is telling you?

  How do you know that listening to yourself is better than listening to all the smart people around you and following their most logical path in life?

“倾听你自己”是一个非常棒的想法，假如你知道如何做到这点的话。

但是，假如你没有听到来自于你内心的声音时该怎么办？

假如你不知道你的心灵想要告诉你的到底是什么时又该如何？

你怎么就能够确信听从自己内心的呼声要比听从身边那些聪明的人的建议更合理呢？

When you listen to yourself you make decisions that are right for you.

  No one else knows what will make you happy (even if they say they do) and bring your life in balance.

当你听从你内心的呼声时，你就做出了适宜于你的决定。

除了你之外，没有人知道什么能够让你开心快乐（即便他们声称如此），他们也无法让你的生活回归平衡。

If you want to learn to listen to yourself then you have two major tasks: Know yourself and Hear yourself.

假如你想要学习如何倾听你自己的话，那你有两样事情需要去做：了解你自己和听到你内心的呼声。

Know Yourself

  

了解你自己

If you know who you are, what your interests are and how you feel about things in life then you can hear your inner voice

. A lot of times we don’t know ourselves completely because we are always surrounded by the opinions and expectations of other people.

如果你了解你自己，知道自己的兴趣所在并能感受生活，那么你就能够听到自己内心的声音。

大多数时候，我们都没有全面的认识我们自己，因为我们满脑子充斥的都是别人的意见和期望。

Maybe one of your parents had a dream that you would be a successful doctor and that dream became your path in life.

Was it your dream? Do you really like being a doctor? 

 I almost made the mistake of following the path that my family thought was right for me (yes, their dream for me was to become a doctor) but I am glad that I chose my own way instead.

也许你的家长的梦想就是期望你成为一个有名的医生，而这样的期望就成为了你生活的目标。

这真的是你自己的梦想吗？你真的想要成为一个医生吗？

我差点儿就成全了我父母的期望（没错，他们希望我将来能够成为一个医生），但我最终还是选择了我自己的梦想，对此我感到非常庆幸。

Make it a habit to think about everything you do throughout the day.

 How does it make you feel? Why are you doing it? What are the results of every action? 

If you practice mindfulnessthen you will learn to stop and think clearly about what you are doing.

 You will know what is going on inside of you every second of your life.

1.留意你所做过的每一件事。

养成每日反省一天所做之事的习惯。

你在一天中所做之事让你产生了何种感觉？你为什么要去做那些事？自己的所作所为会带来哪些结果？

假如你经常反省的话，你就能够静下心来并思考自己到底在做什么。你就能够从自己的内心深处知道你生命的每一刻是如何度过的。

Following a certain route in life (especially the one that was written by somebody else) does not give you any opportunity to listen to yourself.

 When you feel like doing something (even if it seems very irrational at the moment), go ahead and do it! Okay, everything must be done in moderationand I am not asking you to quit your job if you get mad at your boss. 

But: If you feel like going for a walk in the rain –do it.

  If you feel like staying up all night even though you have to go to work tomorrow – do it.

  If you feel like skipping your workout and going to the movies with your best friend – do it.

2.不要墨守陈规。

按照某个一成不变的人生规划去生活（特别是那些由别人为你所制定的人生规划）并不能给你一个能够倾听自己的机会。

当你对某事产生兴趣时（即便这在当时看起来非常不理性），放手去做吧！不过，做事还是要有点限度的，我在这里不是怂恿你去辞职，如果你对老板很不满的话。

但是：

如果你喜欢在雨中散步------那就去做吧。

如果你喜欢熬夜，即便明天还要去上班------那就去做吧。

如果你想略过体育锻炼，然后和你的朋友去看电影的话-----那就去做吧。

Do something new and unexpected at least once a week and you will become more relaxed about life and you will know your inner self better.

每周至少做一件新鲜事或一件计划之外的事，这样能够让你更享受生活并能让你更好的理解内在的自己。

Have you ever felt selfish when you devoted some time to yourself rather than spending time with your family or working on a new project at work? 

I know I did. I also know that if I don’t take care of myself then I lose part of myself.

 I can’t be a good wife, I can’t be a good mom and I can’t deal with my job too.

In order to know yourself you must spend some time regularly doing what you love.

 I would really suggest that this activity does not include shopping, watching TV or playing video games. 

You can walk, do some gardening, try a new recipe, swim, paint, write or whatever you feel like doing.

 If you do what you like then you know how it feels to be calm, relaxed and balanced. 

This is the feeling you are looking for when you try to listen to yourself.

3.照顾好自己。

当你没有把时间花在家人或工作上，而是留给自己时，你是否觉得自己很自私？

我就有过这种自私感。我当然也知道，如果我没有照顾好自己的话，我就会失去部分自我。

我无法成为一个好妻子，我无法成为一个好母亲，我也无法处理好我的工作。

为了了解你自己，你必须定期长期地花些时间去做你所热爱的事情。

我觉得这样的行为应该不包括购物、看电视或玩电子游戏。你可以散散步、做做园艺、尝试下新的菜谱、游泳、画画、写作或者是任何一件你喜欢做的事。

当你在做你所喜欢做的事情时，你就能够体会到什么叫平静、放松和平衡。

这种感觉正是当你想尝试去倾听你自己时所体验到的那种感觉。

Your core belief is the belief that keeps you afloat in any life storm and that lets you walk through life confidently and steadily.

  If you know what your core belief is then you can turn to this belief when you need to listen to yourself.

My core belief is my faith (I am a Christian) and I know that the Holy Spirit guides me through life and has never let me down (and never will.) 

When I need advice then I pray and I always receive the answer and support that works for me.

4.发现你的核心信念。

你的核心信念就是能让你满怀信心地在生活的狂风暴雨中稳步前行的那一个信仰。

如果你知道你的核心信念是什么的话，那么当你需要倾听你自己时，你就可以向它寻求指引。

我的核心信念就是我的信仰（我是基督徒），我深信这种神圣的精神会一直指引我走过生活中的每一道坎坷，这种信仰也让我对为了充满希望。

每当我需要帮助时，我就会祈祷，然后答案就会降临到我身上。

You can have a different core belief and you can discover it after answering a few questions in this post.

你可以拥有一个完全不同的核心信念，当你思考完本文所提出的几个问题后你就可以发现它。

Hear Yourself

  

听到你内心的呼声

Once you know yourself it is time to hear yourself. 

Your inner voice, Holy Spirit, intuition, sixth sense, subconscious mind (choose the right name for yourself) can guide you through life and hel  you make the right decisions. 

It does not mean that you will not make mistakes but those mistakes will teach you something too in life.

当你已经了解了你自己的时候，也就是你开始听到你内心的呼声的时候了。

来自你内心深处的声音、圣灵、直觉、第六感和潜意识会指引你度过生活中的难关并帮助你做出正确的决定。

这并不意味着你不会犯错，你所犯的错误也会让你学到许多。

Today we are constantly surrounded by information that often clutters our mind.

  TV shows, Facebook, Twitter, opinions of people around you, news, blogs (I am taking a risk that you will unsubscribe from my blog after this, but if it brings you mental clarity – I am only for it), magazines and more… 

You need to have some clear room in your mind that will let you hear yourself and not voices of other people.

Limit your exposure to any media at least a few times a week.

Try to keep a positive attitude towards any news you hear.

Spend some time in quietude and solitude daily.

当今，我们时常被各种纷繁的信息包裹着。

电视节目、社交网站、微博、别人的观点、新闻、博客（这么一说，我就觉得我正冒着各位读者不再订阅我的博客的风险，但我希望它是在创造价值）、杂志等等。

你需要给脑子腾出一片区域才能让你倾听到自己的声音而非别人的声音。

一周至少要有几次远离各种媒体的侵蚀。

坚持以一种开放的心态去面对任何一种新闻。

每日留出点时间让自己独自一人平静平静。

A special place is a place where you feel calm and where you feel connected to your inner self and to your core. 

It might be your back porch, shower, beach, park, art gallery, coffee shop or any other place. 

Don’t let anybody disturb you there, just dive into your thoughts and let them flow through you. 

Listen to what your inner self is telling you at that moment.

6.到一个特别的地方去。

一个特别的地方就是能够让你平静下来并让你与内在的自己紧密联系在一起的地方。

它可以是后阳台、浴室、海滩、公园、画廊、咖啡馆或其它的任何一个地方。

不要让任何人在那里打扰你，静下心来跟随着自己的思绪慢慢思考。

然后慢慢倾听内在的自己想要对你所说的话。

Before you can hear anything you often have to ask questions. The most powerful questions are: Why? and How?

Why am I worried about this?

How do I feel it about it?

After all the why’s and how’s you can keep on going with what’s, where’s and when’s.

Keep asking yourself different questions until you feel that you have found the right answer.

7.问自己一些问题。

在你能听到任何声音之前，你通常需要给自己问些问题。最有效的问题就是：为什么？和如何？

为什么我要为此担心呢？

我对此事有何感想？

当你问完了所有为什么、如何的问题后，你可以继续问是什么？哪里？何时？

继续问自己一些问题，直到你觉得你已经找到了正确的答案。

An impatient person often acts based on emotions.

 They don’t even have time to listen to themselves because they are always in a hurry. 

My advice is to relax and be patient no matter what.

8.要有耐心。

性急的人行事往往基于自己的情绪。

他们甚至都还没有时间去倾听自己就已经开始鲁莽行事了。

我的建议就是，不论发生什么事，首先要放松，然后要有耐心。

Any decisions that I made based on emotions were real disasters.

 I lost money, I almost lost a friend, I lost my inner balance and gained a lot of problems.

When you learn to be mindful and patient you discover the difference between raw emotions and your inner voice.

 Give yourself some time to reflect on any situation, step aside and ask yourself questions “Do I really need this?’, “Is it my true decision or am I forced into this?”, “How will I feel about it tomorrow (in a year, in 5 years)?”

9.不要被你的情绪掌控。

我所做出的任何一个基于情绪的决定都是一次灾难。

我损失了钱财、又差点失去一位朋友，我失去了内在的平衡，惹了一大堆的麻烦。

当你学会了理想思考和保持耐心后，你就会发现原始的情感和内心的声音之间的差别。

不论在何种场合下，给自己留出些做出反应的时间，走到一旁反思“我真的要这样做吗？”，“这真的是我所想要的还是被迫才去做的？”，“明天（一年后，或五年后）我对此事会有何感想呢？”。

Sometimes it is helpful to imagine yourself in a place where only your opinion matters. 

There is nobody else to judge you, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to do things and there are no expectations or deadlines pressing you. 

What would you do in that situation? Can you do it now? Why not?

10.想象下你自己正身处一座荒岛上。

有时将自己置身于只有自己的观点才有话语权的地方是一件非常有益的事。

因为，那里不会有人来评判你，也没有“对”与“错”，而且那儿也不会有什么期望或最后期限催促着你。

在那样的情况下，你会做什么？你现在就能做到吗？为什么不呢？

Do you often listen to yourself? Do you usually get the right or the wrong advice? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

你经常倾听你自己？你通常是得到正确的还是错误的建议？请你把自己想法写在评论区分享给大家。

Keep it balanced!

保持生活平衡！