清水河边有歌声 孙红雷:15条单身女人的爱情准则

1. Don't Chase Anyone

"Guys are like subway trains. Don't run after them; another one is on its way." —canuck, on glamour.com

不要追着男人跑：男人就像是地铁列车一样，不要追着一辆跑，因为下一辆马上就会进站的。—— canuck 《魅力》

2. Don't Waste Your Time

"If he says he isn't ready for a relationship, believe him." —Kerri Otto, 32, Traverse City, Mich.

不要浪费时间：当一个男人对你说他还没有准备好投入一段感情的时候，请你一定要相信他！—— kerri otto

3. Long-Term Litmus Test

"Marry someone you want to sit next to for the rest of your life." —Megan Smollins, 26, Astoria, N.Y.

长期试金石：嫁给一个你想下半生都配在他身边的人。—— Megan Smollins

4. Heed Your Grandparents

"My grandfather had some gems: 'Don't be with a stupid man just to be with any man.' 'A real man always takes care of his family.' 'You don't want to be walked over, and you don't want a man you can walk over, either.' And my favorite: 'Don't be a fool, Michelle. You can be anything you want, but don't be a fool.'" —Michelle Porter, 28, Charlotte, N.C.

听从老人的劝告：“不要为了只是想找一个男朋友而跟一个傻男人在一起。”“一个真正的男人在任何时候都会照顾到他的家人。”“你不想被别人牵着鼻子走，但你也绝对不想找一个能被你牵着鼻子走的男人！”“你可以成为你想成为的一切，但是不要成为一个傻瓜！”—— Michelle Porter

5. The Necessity of Laughter

"Don't trust anyone who doesn't laugh." —Maya Angelou

笑声的必要性：一定不要去相信一个吝啬笑容的人。 —— Maya Angelou

6. Go Geeky

"The guys who were nerdy in high school make the best husbands." —Jennifer Goldstein, 31, Brooklyn

冲啊 书呆子：那些在学生时代有点书呆子的男生往往后来都会成为好丈夫的人选。 —— Jennifer Goldstein

7. Love Yourself

"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." —Oscar Wilde

爱你自己：学会爱自己其实就是一段浪漫一生的爱情的开始。 —— Oscar Wilde

8. Kindness Counts

"You can tell a lot about a guy by how he treats your cab driver." —Alanna Sobel, 25, Washington, D.C.

善良的重要性：你可以通过一个男人对待出租车司机的态度来了解他。 —— Alanna Sobel

 9. No Games

"If he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll be 'confused.'" —sayitloud, on glamour.com

不要游戏：如果他喜欢你，你一定会察觉到；但如果你不确定他对你的感情，那他很有可能只是跟你玩玩而已。—— sayitloud 《魅力》

10. Believe In Your Worth

"Respect yourself. I said to my ex, 'I'm not going to make you my everything if I'm only your something.'" —Alyssa Stabile, 19, Boston

相信自己的价值：一定要尊重自己。如果你只是他生活中的一部分，那么也请你不要把他看成是生活的全部。—— Alyssa Stabile

11. Try a Nice Guy

"I used to be into bad boys but kept getting burned. Then I heard this: 'Say no to the guys you usually say yes to, and yes to the ones you normally say no to.' I did, and it totally worked. I have a great husband now." —Laura Knudsen, 27, Charlottetown, Prince Edward Island

试着跟好男人交往：拒绝那些你以前经常交往的男人的类型，尝试着跟其他类型的男人交往。—— Laura Knudsen

 12. Avoid Loners

"Never marry a man who has no friends." —Father Pat Connor, 79-year-old Catholic priest, as quoted by Maureen Dowd in her New York Times column

孤独者绕行：绝对不要嫁给一个没有朋友的男人！—— Father Pat Connor

13. Just Say No to Ink

"Never tattoo a guy's name on your body!" —Rebekah Rankin, 27, Scottsdale, Ariz.

对墨水说不：无论什么时候都不要将一个男人的名字纹在身上！—— Rebekah Rankin

14.Hygiene Is Non-Negotiable

"Personal hygiene is part of the package." —Jim Carrey

不能让步的卫生：个人卫生问题是一个男人的附属品。—— Jim Carrey14.

15. Be Yourself

"It's OK to show up at a guy's house with a dozen roses and declare your undying affection. It's OK to have too much to drink and call your ex 20 times and then to be mortally embarrassed when you realize your number must have shown up on his caller ID. It's OK, because making a fool of yourself for love is ultimately about you, how much you have to give and the distances you will travel to keep your heart wide open when everything around you makes you feel like slamming it shut and soldering it closed." —Veronica Chambers, Glamour's features director and author of The Joy of Doing Things Badly  

做你自己：你可以拿着一打玫瑰到你喜欢的男人门口对他做露骨的表白；你也可以在喝醉酒以后不停的给前男友打电话，并在酒醒之后因为意识到他可以看到来电显示上自己的号码而觉得尴尬。你可以这样做，因为为爱而做傻事是一件很私人的，只是关于你自己的事。是关于在压力困境和伤害中，你可以为爱付出多少，并且愿意为了爱去做出多少努力和牺牲的一件事。—— Veronica Chambers